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Ive been diagnosed with adhd

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Cloudylawn · 29/07/2024 11:59

It's been a few days but feeling really weird about it. From feeling like a total fraud having that diagnosis "they must have got it wrong, I don't really have adhd so don't deserve that diagnosis and any support/meds" to feeling like it's confirmation of my inability to adult properly. I weirdly feel even more stupid now when I forget everything knowing that it's not just me having a moment but that I am actually all the things everyone said about me "scatterbrained" being the favourite of my parents.

I don't know, I thought finding out would help but I just feel really sad and stupid. Hoping to try meds and see if it helps.

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Dumdeedahdumdeedo · 01/08/2024 08:46

ohthejoys21 · 30/07/2024 16:03

I completely understand how you feel. I'm in my 50's and I'm sure I have both conditions but feel there's no going back once diagnosed.. and I'm not sure what the benefits would be. I'm wondering if you'll feel more accepting in the future. How long did it take to get the autism diagnosis? Can you be diagnosed with just having a few traits? There seems to be such diversity between just a few traits and the severe end.

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For me, there hasnt been many benefits yet aside from being able to "forgive" myself for all the things I've kicked myself for struggling with

I'm sure as time comes on I'll be able to start supporting myself better the more I learn about it all and myself

It only took 3 months, my GP did the right to choose and got me an appointment with ASD axia, I only waited a year for my ADHD appointment too

I assume so regarding traits, both the ADHD and ASD assessments were so easy, I was literally just myself and cant believe I "passed" the tests so easily 🙈

I think this is why so many of us have gone undiagnosed because we all focus on the severe end of these things. Girls and women mask and cope a lot better than boys and men

AdversePossession · 01/08/2024 09:55

Cloudylawn · 31/07/2024 22:56

Thanks so much to everyone who has replied, I think the spread of answers is actually partly why I'm struggling to process it, everyone has such hugely varied ideas of what they believe it to be (or not to be), and some of them feel quite negative and reinforce the idea that just "thinking right" by following different people and methods is all that's needed. I think meds would be helpful but the attitude to this particular condition (I'm not criticising people's opinions just saying how it feels) makes how to feel about it very confusing. Some make me feel that this is a real diagnosis that it's ok to feel strange about and the desire to pursue meds, others reinforce the feeling I'm somehow a fraud and that adhd is either not real or an over diagnosed and over medicated condition. I feel guilty for wanting support from my gp to get treatment (given they were the ones who suggested adhd might be an issue in the first place!) and for not understanding the processes to do this.

Thanks to everyone again though, I really appreciate your thoughts but I just don't know what to make of it all. I don't care about a label I just want to be able to function well for my kids, my employer, my parents - basically everyone who needs me to manage life like a proper grown up.

A lot of what you are saying resonates where I was/am with the diagnosis having happened. The questions and exploring it are part of it and it ]is different for everyone, depending on age/how long you waited/GP situation etc.

I have found online local groups/Facebook groups helpful, if you are not already part of them.

But mainly, and I left this out of my previous post for some reason. I am currently on the waiting list for titration (that has had its own issues with the way I handle things) but I want to explore medication for me and what the impact/differences will be. This is alongside what reasonable adjustments at work I can ask for and all the other practical things.

Sometimes I found it helpful to write out: What do I now know? What questions do I still have? Key words to follow up etc.

menohnopausal · 01/08/2024 13:08

@CleverGreenBee "Not using both our front lobal cortexes of our braiins and taaking strong medications can cause cognitive decline and brain wasting diseases like MND and Parkinsons and dementia."

Please can you cite the research showing that ADHD medication causes MND, Parkinson's and dementia? This wasn't mentioned as a risk by DV's consultant. I'd be interested to read it.

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