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Male friend with bipolar needs to go on benefits - what are the odds he will get them?

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Watdidusay · 21/07/2024 22:16

A good friend has had bipolar for 20 years. He's deteriorated in recent years and realistically can't work. He's now in a lot of debt and has been evicted from his rental property.
He is engaging with all services but he's now sleeping on a friend's sofa.

We think he needs to go on benefits until he gets better. His career is extremely stressful and it's unlikely he'll be able to return.

I have heard men never end up getting homed through the benefits system. Is that the case? Is he likely to have to continue to sleep on friend's sofas? He has no partner or children.

OP posts:
Loseandtight · 22/07/2024 18:05

I see my link to the turn2us pip helper didn’t work for some reason. Here it is again. It’s a step by step guide for how to apply for PIP

pip.turn2us.org.uk/?_ga=2.233117596.381867308.1721598134-2144604649.1721598134&_gl=1r22reo_gaMjE0NDYwNDY0OS4xNzIxNTk4MTM0_ga_E1WBSX9YR8*MTcyMTU5ODEzMy4xLjAuMTcyMTU5ODEzMy4wLjAuMA..

AgileGreenSeal · 22/07/2024 18:13

littlegrebe · 22/07/2024 16:00

It's not usual for a local councillor to have "a team" or any special expertise in this field. An MP on the other hand will have, or be about to have, caseworkers who will be able to help. I'm not meaning to nitpick but wouldn't want someone whose mental health is already down the drain to be making lots of approaches to people who will have to say they can't help.

What a councillor will be good for is advising how to get onto the housing list and make sure he has all the points he can get if they operate a points system, and pointing them to any local housing associations whose lists he should also get on. But form filling is not going to be their area of expertise unless they have personal experience.

OP, I would recommend his local Citizens Advice Bureau as a good starting point, this is their bread and butter and they will know where to refer on for stuff they can't deal with. They'll also know about any local support services that could help, such as for mental health, things for single men, etc.

Whether or not he gets housed promptly will be down to the housing situation in his area. In London he's going to struggle, in a northern town without much going on it will be easier. It's important to know that if he's sofa surfing he is already homeless so support services that apply to homeless people (rather than 'street homeless' or rough sleeping) should be available to him already.

Fair enough-
where I’m from there are councillors who could help with this (I’ve experienced this) usually connected with a local Member of the Legislative Assembly.

Of course different conditions apply in different parts of the UK, but you get the idea. I advise the OP to help the person in need to find a competent person / team who have experience helping people navigate the PIP system.

cupcaske123 · 22/07/2024 19:55

Amazinggrace842 · 22/07/2024 15:46

Campaigning is something else entirely and not relevant in terms of this man gaining help right now.

He doesn't need to phone a helpline to find out general advice on how to approach the council. He needs to phone his council itself, who can tell him how to go about it in his area including the address to go to.

The other options you speak of are - private renting of some kind. So lodger/HMO/flat share/renting a flat. Buying a home/shared ownership. Using wages or savings to pay for B&B. Staying informally with friends. There's no magical options he's won't have already heard of.

He's a bipolar adult who has been working in a stressful job, so not someone young and incapable who needs to move into supported living accessed via social services. Which would be the only other option.

He has already left his previous accommodation, so preventing eviction is a no-go, it's already occurred. Whether he has actually officially been made homeless or is deemed to be voluntarily homeless is also a situation that's already occurred and so can't be changed. He's already in whatever situation he's in, so yeh, it's too late to prevent it.

Phoning Shelter would mean probably wasting time sat on hold for ages, only to be told nothing of any use when he eventually gets through. Time and energy that would be better spent dealing with the things he needs to deal with.

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I'm not sure where you've got your information from but Shelter aren't just a campaigning organisation. They have highly trained professional advisors who can advise the man on his rights,the law and what the council are obligated to do. I'm sure you're aware of how the council gatekeep services.

We also aren't aware of the whole picture and there could be more to the story. Shelter will give advice on benefits, funding, hostels and whether or not he has priority need due to his ill health.

He's better off armed with knowledge before dealing with the LA and other organisations. I've worked alongside organisations like Shelter for a long time and they've consistently been excellent. Please don't put people off contacting them. It's worth the wait on the phone to get information and advice.

XenoBitch · 22/07/2024 21:15

He has a MH team, so they can help him with benefits. My CPN was great when I had to apply. It sounds like he would have no trouble getting on them.

Men do get homed. If he applies for PIP, then that will help.

I wish him the best. Bipolar can be awful.

Amazinggrace842 · 23/07/2024 01:42

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 22/07/2024 16:19

That is incorrect regarding Shelter.I personally know of someone who had cancer and was sleeping in their car.Consultant said could not go ahead with operation till had an address to go back to.Council said no.Contacted Shelter and he was put in temporary accommodation that very night by the council after Shelter got involved.

This guy hasn't even been to the council yet! That's the first place to try not waste time getting onto charities. I'm glad they helped your friend. It still doesn't mean I'm wrong FFS. The main thing they do in terms of practical help for homeless people is advise people how not to become homeless before they really have to be. I don't know why you can't just read what I've written and stop imagining a bunch of stuff I didn't write then berating me for it.

Amazinggrace842 · 23/07/2024 01:47

cupcaske123 · 22/07/2024 19:55

I'm not sure where you've got your information from but Shelter aren't just a campaigning organisation. They have highly trained professional advisors who can advise the man on his rights,the law and what the council are obligated to do. I'm sure you're aware of how the council gatekeep services.

We also aren't aware of the whole picture and there could be more to the story. Shelter will give advice on benefits, funding, hostels and whether or not he has priority need due to his ill health.

He's better off armed with knowledge before dealing with the LA and other organisations. I've worked alongside organisations like Shelter for a long time and they've consistently been excellent. Please don't put people off contacting them. It's worth the wait on the phone to get information and advice.

And another fucking one!

I DIDN'T SAY THEY ONLY CAMPAIGNED! Try reading what I actually write!

This man doesn't need an appointment with a charity as the first port of call. He needs to
#1 contact the council and report himself homeless
#2 apply for UC
#3 apply for PIP.

Anything else comes after that. Like if it's not plain sailing or he gets fobbed off.

Anything else, in the first instance, is wasting his time and delaying him getting help.

Fizzib · 23/07/2024 02:00

I don’t think it’s true about men not getting help because they’re men, but yes people who aren’t parents or are parents that don’t have custody are obviously not priority over the many people - usually women- who have primary care of their children.

I do know a couple of women with no kids- one in London and one in Glasgow - that got housed and decent amount of benefits when they lost their jobs and were diagnosed with mental health issues shortly after. Not sure how exactly the process worked for them. Also know a single guy in his 50s whos never worked since his 20s due to depression.

Spidey66 · 23/07/2024 02:08

cupcaske123 · 21/07/2024 22:38

I really recommend he sees his GP as a first port of call. The GP will know what support is available in the local area and can make relevant referrals.

I also recommend Rethink for further help and advice, they have a very good helpline.
https://www.rethink.org/

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He's already under the CMHT though. The GP will merely tell him to take it up with them.

The CMHT may well have Welfare Rights Advisors and/or Support Workers who can help with benefits/housing applications.

Spidey66 · 23/07/2024 02:14

What's this "New Style" ESA? Do you mean UC?

cupcaske123 · 23/07/2024 07:15

Amazinggrace842 · 23/07/2024 01:47

And another fucking one!

I DIDN'T SAY THEY ONLY CAMPAIGNED! Try reading what I actually write!

This man doesn't need an appointment with a charity as the first port of call. He needs to
#1 contact the council and report himself homeless
#2 apply for UC
#3 apply for PIP.

Anything else comes after that. Like if it's not plain sailing or he gets fobbed off.

Anything else, in the first instance, is wasting his time and delaying him getting help.

There's no need to be aggressive. Read back your post where you talk about campaigning.

Councils often gatekeep services they don't always tell you what you are entitled to or what their obligations are. They aren't always helpful in fact they tend to be the opposite. They aren't always the only available option.

Therefore it's prudent to arm yourself with knowledge of your rights and their obligations before contacting them. As the leading charity on housing in the UK, Shelter can tell this man what may be available to him and what he can expect. They may also tell him of other options he may not have considered.

cupcaske123 · 23/07/2024 07:18

Spidey66 · 23/07/2024 02:08

He's already under the CMHT though. The GP will merely tell him to take it up with them.

The CMHT may well have Welfare Rights Advisors and/or Support Workers who can help with benefits/housing applications.

I didn't realise he was already under CMHT, if he is I'm not sure what the point of this post is.

YouJustDoYou · 23/07/2024 07:32

A friend of a friend had this happen eventually to her, she ended up with close to £2k per month in benefits etc so ended up better than most. It's a lottery though, council to council.

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