how to convince someone that they are being financially scammed?

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They refuse to see that facts that are staring them in the face.
They refuse to listen to the police who tell them it's a scam.
They refuse to listen to the bank manager who tells them it's a scam.
They refuse to listen to family and friends who tell them it's a scam.
We think it's because they are in so deep, have sent them so much money over such a long period of time that to admit it's a scam now is just too much to take.

What approaches can we try? How can we get inside their head, like the criminals have done?

TIA

Hi,

I have just seen this and am going through exactly the same thing. I wondered if you had managed to move any further forward with this as I am also struggling to see what other steps can be taken.

Wonder what’s the sad story the scammers are coming up with? Could your family generate an equivalent? And keep the money in trust for him for his rainy day.,, ? Family first etc?

sorry to hear you are going through this too.
It’s still going on. Every £ he gets from doing odd jobs, he sends to the scammers.
I’ve given up engaging with him about it; it’s futile. 😞

I’m so sorry I don’t have anything positive to say to you.

It’s not a sad story. It’s a “you’ve inherited shares from a long lost relative but to get them you need to register them in your name. Send us £1000 and we’ll get the shares worth £5mio registered to you”.
Then there will be a problem with the registration and it’s £500 to correct it.

Then the shares will be de-listed and it’s £750 to get them re-listed.

And so it goes on.

Sadly, the amounts of money involved with the person in my case are much larger. 😥

Hi there,
I am also going through this exact same nightmare with my 74 year old Dad! He’s got angry with me today and told me not to drive the 3 hours to go and see him tomorrow. What do I do? He has a wife (not my mum), who is also falling for all the scams they have fallen for. Losing lots and lots of money.

I'm really sorry to hear that Bridgey76. Feel free to PM me if you'd like to. We are still in exactly the same situation so all I will be able to do is tell you what hasn't worked. But I'm more than happy to be a sounding board and support if you would like.