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Health anxiety is draining me..

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Pottymouth83 · 07/10/2021 23:20

…particularly if it involves my children. The slightest symptom that’s not easily explained and I’m immediately fearing the worst. So far this year, I have worried myself into a stupor about my children having things like leg pains, headaches, a spot on the scalp, tummy pain - I usually post on here about whatever it is for reassurance and feel physically sick until we get to see a doctor.

I also panic about symptoms I experience myself.

And the thing is, as much as I look back at all the times I’ve panicked and it’s turned out to be nothing and therefore is likely to be nothing to worry about on this occasion too, a ridiculous part of my brain tells me that if I relax and don’t worry, this will be the time that it turns out to be something bad. As though the worrying helps - stupid I know.

Tonight’s trigger is my DS has complained of pain in the side of his lower leg the past couple of days. It hasn’t stopped him running around, playing sport etc but he says it’s sore to touch. So I’m feeling sick with worry again that it’s something serious and so the whole process starts again. He’s had bouts of growing pains before but I don’t think his leg or legs have ever been sore to touch.

So what I want to ask is - seeing as it’s quite hard to see a GP, where can I go for help with this? I just want to be able to react rationally whenever I or someone else in my family is ill. It really is all consuming sometimes.

And yes, I’m going to do what I always do and ask can anyone please reassure me about his leg? Is it weird that it’s sore to touch with no obvious injury/cause?

OP posts:
Ljd401 · 20/02/2025 01:48

Beside myself with worry tonight. Can’t cope with this awful health anxiety.

Pottymouth83 · 20/02/2025 23:20

Oh gosh @Ljd401 - please have a chat with your GP. Do you have someone at home you can talk to?

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Ljd401 · 26/02/2025 00:59

Pottymouth83 · 20/02/2025 23:20

Oh gosh @Ljd401 - please have a chat with your GP. Do you have someone at home you can talk to?

Thank you for taking the time to reach out. I do have someone who I can talk to thankfully xx

FoolishHips · 02/03/2025 15:16

I'm not sure I have much advice but I think we all feel our judgement is off. We'd blame ourselves if there was something wrong and we blame ourselves for panicking and possibly affecting our children. If anything does happen we torture ourselves over not having done something sooner. And like you say, we all think we have to worry because the minute we stop something bad will happen. That's very much a control issue. I'd recommend Ajahn Brahm's talk "Relax. Everything is out of control".

I'm still like this and my children are 20 and 22. I do think that if something was seriously it would be very obvious. Also try to keep a sense of humour. I used to be anxious because I'd do reflexology on my youngest son and he had a small bump in his calf muscle which was obviously just the natural shape of his leg. It's ridiculous and I prefer people to laugh at me because that puts it into perspective.

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