Anyone needing support for anxiety/depression come over here! (Please)

[LEMtheoriginal]

I'm struggling so much just now and could use the support of fellow sufferers.

Right now I'm just putting one foot in front of the other - getting though the day.

studiously ignoring the piece of paper with the number of my old counsellor

Currently unmedicated and trying not to go back but not sure how long that will last.

I would like this thread to be a safe place to come and help each other through the days (and nights). I know there are other threads but feel they are well established and just would like to hear about how people got into their issues and what they do to help themselves.

I am taking my dd2 for a cream tea after school today. It's my say off work. Always a struggle but I'm getting through it.

Anyone? All welcome from those of us feeling a bit sad to those of us battling serious my issues. No judgements allowed just whatever helps xx

[Smashpumpkin]

LesLavandes. So sorry you are feeling this way. If you ever want to talk this thread is here.

[anxiousnow]

Les sorry you are having such a bad time. Yes here to listen whenever. I find music helps a lot too! Exercise as well. I wouldn't go anywhere to excercise but blasting musuc at home and doing a few squats seems to help

[Girliefriendlikesflowers]

Hi all joining in as have had a bad wend with anxiety, have had anxiety on and off for a loooooooong time and it was triggered this wend as I travelled to see a friend, travelling any where is always difficult

I tried ADs a few years ago and had horrific side effects which haunt me even now, never again.

Things that help are ditching caffeine, exercise, distraction, mindfulness....

[OCSockOrphanage]

I would like to help the wife of a friend, who seems to have suddenly developed huge issues for reasons unknown. How can an outsider be helpful?

[Nissandriver]

Hi OC, what helped me was someone simply asking if I was ok? How was I doing? I think just asking can give someone the opportunity to talk. Depression and anxiety can be a very lonely and isolating place. Knowing someone cares and will listen can make such a difference. It did to me

[Nissandriver]

Les, I’m sorry to hear you’re having a tough day. I used to keep the TV on all day so there was some noise in the house. Just having some noise rather than silence always seemed to help

[CantGetNoSleeeeeeep]

Hi! Can I join?
Anxiety and depression and PTSD. Having an episode as I call them at the moment. Just in the process of switching from citalopram to Escitalopram at upping dose in 2 weeks.
Been feeling slightly less anxious today.

[CantGetNoSleeeeeeep]

Les, I too use the radio when I'm bad, and fold clothes! Wishing you well too

[LesLavandes]

Thank you all. I live very remotely, big family house on my own mainly these days. My background is a complicated mess. I should try to go out every day even just to buy some food. The last week has been full of problems and have just hidden under duvet mostly but had a big anxiety attack today. I thought I couldn't carry on. Still here. Thank you.

[Robotlady]

it does Nissan thank you, What happens after that? do you get to see someone/get treatment urgently?

[Nissandriver]

I’m assuming that the person would be assessed/diagnosised by the appropriate medical respurces and appropriate treatment would follow. I’m afraid I don’t have first had experience of a crisis situation/process. I think it would depend on the severity of the situation to which medical resources would be engaged.

[LEMtheoriginal]

Popping my head in to say hello - overwhelmed by the response. Tough day for me tomorrow - wishing everyone a peaceful week

[Justchillaxing]

Sorry to hear you're struggling. Hugs to everyone on here.

I'm in a bad place too. I've had enough really, would like to admit myself into hospital and not have to try to cope anymore. I've had a tough two years and no sign of letting up yet.

LEM hope you get through tomorrow ok

[Justchillaxing]

I just wanted to add, does anyone know what help is available for someone with depression themselves and a teenage dd also struggling with depression? My gp just prescribes different ADs. Counselling is virtually non existent, the course of 12 I'm doing costs £10 per session with a Christian counselling service but seems a waste of time - she seems to think my only problem is àn ex abusive husband and I don't know how to approach my problems when she links everything back to that and now we're nearly halfway through the course and it seems like a waste of time. I briefly saw the primary care mh team who said there was nothing they could do for me. ADs don't seem to help but make me put on weight which is making me even more unhappy. I know there's no magic solution. Just wondered if there's something else i could ask for that might help. I'm in Wales. I've no friends, no family nearby and only my mum left anyway. Three kids, 2 eldest live abroad and haven't seen them for 18 months, can't afford to and they can't afford to come here. They suffer with mh issues too and I feel like a huge failure.

Sorry for the rant.

[Justchillaxing]

Forgot to say, thanks for creating the thread OP.

[anxiousnow]

Lem hope tough day tomorrow goes as well as it can. Hour by hour ok.
Hi just, sorry to hear about you and your dd. Can school help support her? Another visit to the doctor with her? Sorry i do not have any useful advice but am here to listen. My issues were also linked to abusive ex by councillor and it didn't help me at all. It's so hard isn't it. People don't understand. I have to keep telling my friends that me just managing to get up, deal with kids is a big thing but they don't get it. I wish i coukd turn my thoughts off. Hope you all get some sleep and tomorrow is kind to you

[Justchillaxing]

Thanks anxious. Dd received a course of school counselling but it took about 8 sessions before she trusted the counsellor enough to talk. I've requested more through the website but had no contact since at all. Emailed on the address given on school website which bounced back undeliverable Don't know how to get in touch with them. Gp said it was school's responsibility and they can't do anything. Camhs say the same Feel totally abandoned. Think I'll email school and see if they can tell me how to get hold of the counselling team.

[anxiousnow]

Sorry to hear it is such a hard process but chase them. A friend was trying to get help for her son and was acting very together, nothing really happened. In the end she broke down and showed her desperation and finally he got some help. He had left school though so different. Such a shame of she was starting to trust. Good luck with email.

[Justchillaxing]

Thanks I've just emailed her head of year. Fingers crossed.

[anxiousnow]

Fingers crossed

[DaisyRaine90]

Hope none of you are awake at this forsaken time 😞
Hope your weeks start well 😊

So anxious about the coming week. Got so many stresses right now.
I hate it when it gets so late I can’t take a sleeping pill because by the time it kicks in I’ll have to get up 😭

Nearly run out of Diazepam. Haven’t taken any for 3 days because I know I need them in case of panic attack’s, but the anxiety has been really hard to deal with.

Can’t take ADs due to really really bad reactions.
I have counselling once a week and read a lot of self help books. It’s the only thing that keeps me going, and DP and DCs of course.

I’m still upset a lot I couldn’t breastfeed DS. He’s 3 months and bottle feeds well, and he was EBF for the first four weeks but expressed milk because he didn’t latch well.
It was so exhausting but I can’t help feeling I’ve failed him a little already.

It is such a hard job being a parent.
DP says “of course you worry, your a Mum.”

But OMG sometimes it’s like the responsibility for those two little children weighs down so heavy on me I just want to lie down and cry. I know I will never be able to give them as much as they deserve.
I know I will fail them no matter how hard I try or what I do, because that’s what parents do, they fuck us up.

Please tell me I’m not the only one lying awake worrying about their kids??
I had anxiety before I had them, but it’s so much worse now.

A course of CBT helped with panic attack’s, systematic desensitisation helped with my agoraphobia and claustrophobia (public transport was the worst), and counselling has helped me in every way.
I’ve had some bad CBT in the past as well though.
I function better now. Less meltdowns and panic attack’s.
But Inside?? Inside I feel like I am permanent turmoil. I can’t shake the feeling of impending calamity, or that I am going to do something to ruin my kids lives.

[anxiousnow]

Hi Daisy, sorry you are having such a bad time. Has this been even worse since the baby as in pnd? Please don't beat yourself up about the BF. You really sound like you need more support. Glad you are having weekly counselling. Has your counsellor recommended ant alternative therapies if you react badly to AD's? You won't fail them. Yes we make mistakes but it isn't failing them. The fact we care enough to constantly evaluate is a good thing. Some people don't learn from their mistakes. The lack of sleep really does heighten everything doesn't it.

[anxiousnow]

I can't sleep again. I can't turn my brain off. Does anyone have any good turning off techniques? I am watching tv and have tried reading but my brain is obsessing and on overload.

[iamUberA]

Same here anxious
Been awake since 1, hoping for another couple of hours, led on the sofa now with radio on to distract me!

[Badhaircut9]

I can’t sleep either and now feel worried about the coming day as I will feel exhausted all day i’m sure.
I’m worried about the coming storm but it sounds quiet here so far.
To feel calm maybe try some slow deep breathing and positive affirmations repeated over and over like for example ‘I am a good person’.Sometimes I am able to get back to sleep this way as it helps to shut out my fear and anxieties.I am going to give this a go now, hoping it will work.