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How much can a person deal with at one time? I feel like I'm losing it!

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Sparkler1 · 27/11/2006 20:50

I've written this post about 10 times and deleted it. So much in my head I don't know where to start. I have so much going on around me I feel like my head could explode.
Probably just sound like I'm being a moan bag but just want to try and let of some steam - seemed like a good place here.
I work four hours a day five days a week - okay not a hardship I know but I'm tired with everything else going on.
The time Monday - Friday I don't spend working consists of taking kids to school, picking them up, mum's taxi service to after school activities. Making tea. Bathtime. Reading homework with dds.
My step dad is really unwell again - has been for years now but for the last couple of years has gone right down hill - we almost lost him this time two years ago but that was another thread.
My sister has just been dumped by her boyfriend ( this is the fourth time in a row that this has happened to her) and she is really, really low. I'm so worried about her. She doesn't want to talk about it and tells me that she is going deal with it by thinking it never happened. It's not good as she looks so unhappy.
DD1 is now seven and I'm finding her quite hard work at the moment - the attitude is really kicking in this year.
There is just not enough time in the day - my house is like a tip. Stacks of washing, washing up, every room looks like a bomb has hit it. As for the bathrooms - OMG!
I know I'm sat here typing, have glass of wine in hand and pringles sat next to me but I need some "me" time too.
Seriously though I'm finding it really tough right now - there are days when I am finding it really hard to handle. One day last week I hardly stopped crying all day.

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mrsnoah · 27/11/2006 22:04

Oh and I agree- sod the mess!
I have recently decided that I will do 1 main task a day like hoover upstairs, next day hoover downstairs and dont beat myself up when I cant manage to springclean the whole house. The rest has to bloomin wait!
Also, train the kids: they are never too young to clean the bathroom its fun!!

mrsnoah · 27/11/2006 22:01

Sparkler,so sorry you're having a crappy time.
Working 4 hours a day is alot when you have so much else going on too.
The lovely thing is I see Mumsnet as ME time.. its the perfect place to have a bit of a rant and we will all nod and listen.
SO RANT AWAY girl!
It would be lovely get a sitter and pop out for a run/dinner/etc to escape but its not always (or ever) possible and it is hard.
But tomorrow will be another day and hopefully a sunny one

vizbizz · 27/11/2006 21:46

Don't sell the tiredness short - it's enough to drive anyone daft! me time is essential, make sure you try and get some somehow...get someone to mind the kids and just get OUT even for a llittle while. Ignore the mess, it doesn't hurt anyone being there. You'll get to it sooner or later, prefereably MUCh later ;)

Scootergirl · 27/11/2006 21:23

Chuck a slug of vodka in that diet coke - goodness, I sound like a complete alkie. I'm not.... well, not really! I fully understand about tea as well. I've had a bowl of mashed potato mixed with sweetcorn left over from DD's tea. A balanced diet, yes?

Sparkler1 · 27/11/2006 21:15

thanks scootergirl

Unfortunately I've run out of wine and am now onto the diet coke
Shows how hectic things are - am just about to sit down and eat my tea - 9.20pm!

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TooTickyDoves · 27/11/2006 21:15

Oh poor you. I used to sneer at people wanting "me time", but now I have 4 dcs I've started to realise it is important.
Our house is shocking - I think the key is to try not to worry about it. I hope things get better for you.

Scootergirl · 27/11/2006 21:04

Oh babe. Everyone has those times when it's all too much and it counds like you're coping with more than most. My house is also a shit-hole and I find the key is more wine and less thinking about cleaning

Sparkler1 · 27/11/2006 21:02

Sorry - just read my post back and I sound like I'm moaning about nothing.
I think tiredness is a huge contributing factor. I just don't feel very positive about anything at the moment. Everything feels so negative.

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