Please cheer me up.

[Lonelymum]

Feeling really low at the moment and could do with some cheering up. You know, the good old fashioned sort like my mother would mention, eg I stepped outside to put some rubbish in the bin and saw that it was lovely and sunny out. I know the sun should cheer me up, but I need something more than that.

vomit/children vomiting

this is the latest in a long line of threads started by me on this topic.

a relative of mine has this fear, but i don't think she feels as bad as you do about this.you need professional help, seek it as soon as you can, good luck.xx

Thank you. Please believe me when I say I am trying very hard to get the help I need. I know a lot of the time it looks like I am beig pathetic, but I am battling very hard within myself. I appreciate any kind words, so thank you.

Hi Lonely I've not been on a for a few days and just spotted this thread. Sorry you are feeling so down at the moment. I can't think of anything particularly to take away the pain and cheer you up at the moment, probably because I'm on a bit of a downer myself today, but I wanted you to know I was thinking of you.

Hang in there.

something just sprang to my mind. No idea why - but I feel I must say it: Go and read a Mr Men or Little Miss Story. (I've no idea why I got that thought, but it's worth a try. think I'll do the same later!)

Hi Lonely I've not been on a for a few days and just spotted this thread. Sorry you are feeling so down at the moment. I can't think of anything particularly to take away the pain and cheer you up at the moment, probably because I'm on a bit of a downer myself today, but I wanted you to know I was thinking of you.

Hang in there.

something just sprang to my mind. No idea why - but I feel I must say it: Go and read a Mr Men or Little Miss Story. (I've no idea why I got that thought, but it's worth a try. think I'll do the same later!)

Oops I seem to be appearing in double :O

Oops I seem to be appearing in double

Oh lm..just seen this.

If you could have/change anything or have anything,what would it be?

Thinking about you tonight as there is a programme on BBC Prime about people with obsessions. (Hoarding,handwashing,pulling hair out and so on.)

Thank you NotAStrongWoman, I woke up feeling brighter today (9 and a half hours uninterrupted sleep!), then read your posts and they made me cry! I suppose I am just a very lonely, sad woman and any voice of kindness sets me off. I only have three Mister Men books and I know them backwards: I am not sure there are any words of wisdom for me there! But you are so kind to bother to write to me.

Moondodg, there isn't really any doubt in my mind what the answer to your question is: to be free of my phobia. It is that that makes everything else so difficult for me: raising my children, being without dh when he is away on business, going back to work, socialising: everything comes back to the phobia in the end.

Moondodg? MOONDOG of course.

You might remember Moondodg(e) when you are sneaking a spliff in the Mumsnet Yurt tent though?

How are you tonight LonelyM? Thinking of you.

Not so bad last night. There is one thing I can do when dh is not here that I find very difficult when he is, and that is read and write my diary. Today though, I feel even sadder, having had time to be reflective. Dh has come home and I have told him I want to leave him and the kids! It is not that I do not love him anymore, but I am just so hollow: I want time by myself. Don't worry, I won't go. But I want to.

DON'T DO IT LonelyM. You need some time to yourself. Tell your DH that you are struggling a bit at the moment and need some time away on your own. Can you get a couple of hours alone this weekend? Maybe you can go for a swim? the pool may be full of kids but at least they wont be your responsibility! Or a stroll in the park or some window shopping. Do whatever you can but try to escape if you can so you can recharge your batteries.

If you can't get out alone, rent a video one evening (something that will make you laugh, not cry) and get some popcorn and unwind when the kids are in bed.

Must dash, but hang in there. Let me know how you get on.

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Yes Aimsmum, it is. It is very selfish of me, I know, but I feel there is nothing of me left any more. I won't go though, don't worry. I couldn't do that to my children (or dh either, come to think of it).

I spent a selfish day today. I lay in late (dh got up with children) and had breakfast alone, then went to Tesco alone (boring, but at least I no children dragging me down). Dh and the kids like pizza for Saturday lunch but it drives me nuts eating pizza all the time so I bought me a ready cooked meal. Then I went out on my own all afternoon (although dh said he wanted to go out!) I bought some clothes with the money we don't have! and a really big book that interests me and I saw recommended on Mumsnet last night. Not sure I feel entirely better, but I might when I get the clothes on and start reading!

Haven't heard from my friend. Will give her aring tomorrow.

Do you know, a good book is often the answer to my mood? Strange, it really is. My sister and i have discussed this at length, we are both avid readers, always have been. She has suffered from depression, and said she just wanted to reda a book and become enthralled in it.
Which book did you get?

Sorry, in and out, getting kids to bed, cats fed, tidying up done etc - needlesstosay, dh has done nothing!

Greenmonsterbean recommended it on a book club thread: This thing of darkness by Harry Thompson. It is a huge novel about the relationship between Charles Darwin and Robert FitzRoy, captain of the Beagle (the ship Darwin sailed on). Sorry, may not be another's kind of thing but I love history and sea stories and am interested in the religion/science debate. Also, years ago there was a dramatisation of the voyage on TV which was fascinating.

I agree about losing oneself in a good book. Unfortunately there is never time to just sit and read and read all day like there used to be in the good old student days.

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Can't get away Aimsmum, who would look after the kids? Dh? You should see the mess here when I have been absent one afternoon. Dh's work comes first, last and always, doncha know?

hello everyone. I'm 20, had my first baby two months ago.I don't know if my marriage will last much longer, I get down and ultimately take it out on hubby. sometimes i feel like i have to do it all or nothing will get done and I think I've burn't myself out!

Oh newmum, it must be hard for you as you have not had much chance to live yet. I had 13 years of adulthood before I had my first baby so at least I had some fun times. Mind you, that is what I find so hard now: remembering those times and realising they have passed now. Cheer up! If you have no more children, you will be completely free of child care by the time you are 38 which is younger than I am now!

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