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Fasting / 5:2 diet

Talk about intermittent fasting and 5:2, including what’s worked for others. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

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Nobody has noticed

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Nibblypiggotonabus · 17/01/2022 17:05

This probably sounds ridiculously petty but I have lost 24lbs since having my daughter nearly 1 year ago and worked very hard at, TRE, fasting and eating well and am not too far away from my goal weight (another 10lbs to go) but not one person has mentioned it.

I understand that some may not want to talk about others weight for fear of offence but they willingly hand out compliments to my DH who has also lost weight on this diet (he looks great and absolutely deserves the compliments btw)

I feel stupidly petty for feeling a bit miffed that no one's said a word when I can see a difference in myself and the clothes I can fit back in to. I think it's just because my body has taken a bit of a knocking and I've been proud of what I've managed albeit probably slowly.

Tell me to get a grip and stop being so ridiculous...

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A580Hojas · 17/01/2022 17:10

It's probably because people will have expected you to lose quite a bit of weight after your pregnancy and don't realise you've been making a big effort to do so?

Justmuddlingalong · 17/01/2022 17:13

Well done! Are you dressing for your new shape and size, or still dressing as though you've got excess weight to hide?

BeMoreGoldfish · 17/01/2022 17:13

It can take quite a while for people to notice weight loss - depending on all sorts of factors.

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Nibblypiggotonabus · 17/01/2022 17:24

@A580Hojas you're probably right. I'm not the type of person who would shout about it and I can see why many would just think that I'm naturally doing what most women would after a baby.

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Nibblypiggotonabus · 17/01/2022 17:26

@Justmuddlingalong not yet, I promised myself a few new things once I get to my goal weight.

I know it sounds daft being a bit put out by it, I think it's just we all respond well to a bit positive encouragement and it would've been nice to hear a 'you look well' but suppose in the end it's for my health and happiness anyway.

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ChateauMargaux · 17/01/2022 17:29

I also think that people are wary of talking about weight in the year after you have had a baby... it does take time to get back to ore pregnancy size.... for many women, thyroid function goes all over the place ...

Enjoy the weight loss and feeling good about yourself. Bravo!!!

ViceLikeBlip · 17/01/2022 17:35

I would never compliment someone on weight loss. I don't want them to think they looked bad before, I don't want them to think that I "noticed" when they were heavier, I don't want them to feel pressure to keep the weight off, I don't want them to feel somehow more worthy now they're thinner etc etc. Basically, I never comment on anyone else's weight, ever! Plus, often when someone loses weight it can be because they're unwell.

Maybe people don't overthink to the same extent when they're talking to a man?!!

Muchmorethan · 17/01/2022 17:44

I have lost 2.5 stone and it's only been this last couple of weeks that my colleagues have noticed.

I think they have noticed as I'm wearing the next size down so it's more noticeable

KittyTail · 17/01/2022 17:58

Most people don’t. Except my ex MIL who would would often tell me that I was too fat or too thin and when I was like a little whippet just before running a marathon, I’d ‘overdone it.’ Otherwise, no-one commented and I didn’t really expect them to. I know when I was in great shape physically and it didn’t coincide with me being in great shape mentally but I felt healthy and strong. Tell yourself well done and enjoy your bod..

emmsyg · 20/01/2022 11:15

I bet you look great. Well done on your weight loss, you should be super proud of yourself.

I'm also one year post baby and loss absolutely nothing in that year, just taking the steps to sort myself out now. I agree with others, people probably have no idea how hard you've worked and think its just natural for the post baby weight to just fall off, when in reality that's not how it works for most of us!

TalkToTheHand123 · 27/01/2022 09:07

I'd be the same and drop hints.

RedCandyApple · 27/01/2022 09:13

Tbf I’ve only seen this on MN but it seems a lot of people feel it’s wrong to comment on people’s weight loss, or feel offended if people comment on theirs so maybe that’s why they haven’t said anything?

JustWonderingIfYou · 27/01/2022 09:21

Is that 24lbs off from post baby weight or 24lbs lower than pre baby weight?

I wouldn't expect people to notice just baby weight coming off as most people lose that naturally in the first 9months-a year.

Also they probably think of you as pre baby size so just see you as normal you now.

Gwenhwyfar · 17/02/2022 17:32

@RedCandyApple

I did once comment approvingly on someone's weightloss only to find out it was because of an illness and she was actually getting better after having been way too thin. Luckily she took it well.

bumblingbovine49 · 17/02/2022 18:56

@ViceLikeBlip

Maybe people don't overthink to the same extent when they're talking to a man?!!

This is absolutely my view as well. I've lost a lot of weight quite a few times in my life and nowadays hate it when anyone mentions if I have lost weight. I didn't like it much when I was younger either . All it makes me think is how bad must have looked before and given the number of times I've gained the weight again, how bad I will look again soon and also how embarrassing it is the next time I see that person and I have gained it all back again . When I do sometimes lose weight again nowadays I can't stand being congratulated for it
I prefer that my weight is completely ignored by other people. I still work at not gaining weight and when I lose a bit I fell better, that is all I need not for others to tell me how good I look

I sorry no one has said anything if that is what you want but isn't losing weight supposed to be for you and not for what others think?

Wigeon · 17/02/2022 19:10

I don’t ever comment on someone’s weight loss because I am worried it will sound like “gosh you were so fat before”. Also in case they lost weight for a bad reason, like some kind of health condition which causes rapid weight loss, or they’re really stressed and have stopped eating because of that (eg they’re getting divorced). Also because I’m slim and pretty much always have been, so I’m ultra conscious not to sound judgy (back to worrying it will come across as “you were so fat before”, even thought I wouldn’t mean that obviously).

TalkToTheHand123 · 17/02/2022 22:18

Sometimes it's an instant reaction and can't help saying something or if you know the person well and know they are dieting.

It's funny though when they notice you put on and say something.

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Nibblypiggotonabus · 18/02/2022 13:09

So it seems that most don't want to mention for fear of offence which is understandable, it wasn't quite the gushing comments of 'oh my god you've lost so much weight' I was after, it was more of a 'you look well' Which I would say to someone I knew, if I thought they did or noticed they had lost weight and it would be complimenting them.

@bumblingbovine49 you're absolutely right it is mainly for me but I suppose I'm still human at the end of the day and perhaps a little outside validation to boost self-esteem often helps me, as I can be my own worst critic but we're all different.

Who knew this was such a minefield to give a compliment or like to receive one now and again!

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Hkyvvse · 25/03/2022 21:04

I wouldn’t dream of commenting on someone’s weight…wither friend or not, lost or gained, incredibly rude

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