Free nhs ivf as a single woman

[Kwills198619]

I wondered if anyone can shed some light….I’ve done 4 self-funded IUIs and am about to have my 5th. I’ve just turned 40, have no known fertility issues and good AMH, and I don’t generally need stimulation medication.
For anyone who was referred for free NHS IVF as a solo woman after completing the required number of self-funded IUIs (6), what evidence did they ask you to provide?
My clinic app currently shows 6 IUI cycles because it includes a cycle that was cancelled due to hyperstimulation. Did the NHS accept your treatment history/screenshots from the clinic app, or did they contact your fertility clinic and ask for full records/confirmation of each completed cycle?
or do they not ask for anything?
What actually happened during your referral and what documentation were you asked for?

Thank you and I’m so sorry they’ve not helped you when clearly they should be. It still makes no sense to me that someone in your situation isn’t helped yet they’ll pay for someone to change gender. They’d say mental health but what about the mental health of a woman who has dreamed of being a mother their whole life? And let’s face, society has us growing up being told that’s what is expected of us so when it doesn’t happen, they wonder why our identity is lost and mental health suffers. Frankly, it’s the same as someone who feels they were born the wrong gender.

It's a need, that's why its pursued so rigorously.

Thank you! Exactly the answer I was looking for. I know my area do offer it to single woman, was just missing what they ask for as proof.

Thank you for your kindness. People are entitled to their opinions, but you’re right, no need for the nastiness or negativity. I just ignore them, they’re not changing my mind or opinion so they’re wasting their time commenting

Thank you and I’m so sorry they’ve not helped you when clearly they should be. It still makes no sense to me that someone in your situation isn’t helped yet they’ll pay for someone to change gender. They’d say mental health but what about the mental health of a woman who has dreamed of being a mother their whole life? And let’s face, society has us growing up being told that’s what is expected of us so when it doesn’t happen, they wonder why our identity is lost and mental health suffers. Frankly, it’s the same as someone who feels they were born the wrong gender.

Just because a lot of women start having babies at 30/35 it doesn't mean that from a medical perspective its a good idea ideally people should be having babies in their 20s

Just answering the question you asked. Someone needing a liver transplant will die without one. I think that's the fundamental difference.

Personally I struggle with the idea of ivf. I say this as someone lucky enough to have dc so I know I am coming at this from a privileged angle. But if we cannot have children naturally then should we? I do understand that it's "easy for me because I have children" and im not even saying I wouldn't use IVF. Im also not religious, and I am very pro choice.

Unfortunately the whole nhs is a postcode lottery not just fertility services I don't think people realise how bad it is until they come up against it

Society isn't set up for this, babies need to be paid for and a women needs time to finish uni/training before she can get a job to pay for them. Same for the father. Also, if you are planning to have a baby with a half decent man, there isn't a lot to choose from, especially those in their 20's!.

It’s really interesting how many posters have jumped on this thread to splurge their narrow minded views rather than answer the OP.

All that matters is that a child is loved and cared for, not that they have a male and female that produced them. If the NHS is funding single person IVF then why wouldn’t she accept?

OP I do not know about the NHS IVF process but I wish you every luck with it.

I was offered IVF in Yorkshire (due to medical negligence that made me need it) but I declined, just couldn't put myself through it and no regrets.

I don't know the answer to your question but a friend of mine went down the IVF route in London and said the quality and knowledge with private and NHS was massive. Everything went wrong with the NHS help and it was set up to fail. This was, about 14 years ago so don't know if it's improved. She had 2 children via paying for it.

Anyway, best of luck with your journey.

No women make choices of what is important to them. Babies can be as cheap or expensive as you choose. Plenty of women meet their husbands in their teens and early 20s

I'm not sure if other people's experiences will necessarily help you OP. As others have said, it's a postcode lottery and where you live will influence how many free rounds the NHS offer, the age limit, and other limitations. It's very unfair.

But the liver was destroyed by life style choice. I think you missed the difference? Why would someone healthy miss out on a scarce transplant and be given to a boozer? George Best had one and then carried on drinking anyway and died a few years later. It's all medical intervention, I don't think you can be precious about one.

Is nursery cheap? No.Can people live off one salary? No.
Most relationships that start in the teen years do not last the course and nor should they as people grow and want different thing.

Alcohol addiction is a disease not a lifestyle choice.

On the one hand there is pressure on the government to ban 1st cousin marriage because of the potential health risks for their children. On the other hand our national health service will provide IVF for women over forty which comes with the same level of risk.

Maybe it’s society that needs to change though?

My mum had me at 24, she had finished her nursing training before that and after having kids went back to work and had a successful career.
Yes my Dad was around, he was supportive and a good Dad, men in their 20s are capable of this!

I had my first at 29, DH is the same age. We got together at 25.
Women shouldn’t be told it’s fine to leave having babies until your late 30s because it’s not, it’s risky. Obviously sometimes that’s how it works out but if someone is in a stable relationship and wants children they should be told it’s advisable to do it sooner rather than later.

Maybe we as a society should be thinking of ways to support women to do it this way around?

I'm not sure the disabilities 'caused' by first cousin marriages are the same as the ones 'caused' by older mothers. Also having successive children with a cousin can replicate the same genetic disorder in each child
As an older mother, the only thing mentioned was Downs which I was tested for.

Of course people can live of one salary many people do. You can make as many excuses as you want for choosing to have your children later in life it doesn't make it a medically good option. The risks are higher thats a scientific fact. The age of first time parents have gone up and look around you at the increase in disability.

One of the health risks for children is older fathers. It is possibly a higher risk than having an older mother, but the data isn't clear because older mothers also tend to have older partners. If you use a sperm donor he will be young, as donations are only taken from young men, so this risk is lowered.

I think the cap on donating is 45 years.

Totally agree. For those who say they don’t agree with IVF, thats not what the poster asked for. You are not in their shoes, especially if you are blessed with children without the need for IVF, please just sit this one out.

Sorry I don’t know anything about IVF for single women but I think the whole is very postcode lottery for NHS. I also think private differs a lot too as they obviously like success stories for their figures.

Statistically the risks are the same though. That is why I find it odd that one is condemned and the other is funded on the NHS. I don't have particularly strong views on it though as there are lots of factors involved.

That's not true. They don't provide IVF for women over 40 on the NHS? In fact I'm sure most areas don't after 38.