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Unplanned pregnancy 3rd child

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Elisabeth3468 · 14/07/2026 22:33

Please no negative comments I'm just looking for those that have been in a similar situation or those that have a 3 child family. To put things into perspective our first child was ivf after a struggle to conceive. Both told very very low chance of natural conception. Second child conceived naturally after a year of trying. My kids are 4 yo and 18 months. now I've found myself pregnant, luckily I've found out very early so there are options.
i know my options but i am really struggling to make a decision. We both work but finances are already stretched massively with the cost of living. I find the first year of babyhood mentally hard and my youngest would only be just over 2 when the baby is born. I feel awful on my two children and also very sad for this life I've created. I feel really embarrassed so haven't told many people. I feel ungrateful because life should be celebrated and I was over the moon seeing a positive test with my other children.
anyway, I'm waffling. In my heart of hearts I'm not sure I could go through with a termination but I also don't want to ruin my family unit? Just feel like we've got back on our feet again and started feeling more myself after the post partum haze!

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Cheesecheeks · 14/07/2026 22:57

I’m sorry you’re struggling. I think saying in your heart you couldnt go through with it, is worth listening to. Yes it would be hard and was not the plan but it wouldn’t necessarily ruin your family. It’s a personal decision for only you to make, but terminating against your inner voice would be hard too.

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