Third baby?

[Blossoms217]

We've been blessed with two boys, ages almost 7 and almost 5. Our eldest is very independent into a lot of sports and the youngest is going to be one of the older kids in his class starting in reception.
I work part time and since around June last year I can't stop thinking about having a third.

I thought the feeling might fade but it's actually becoming more intense, to the point I think it is impacting and taking over my mind daily.

I never thought we would try for a third, we got rid of all the baby stuff and can't decide if this is just an intense feeling of the children getting older and having had one of them at home with me for the past 7 years.

I've enjoyed it so much but I feel so torn as I know jumping from 2 to 3 is such a big decision in today's world.

has anyone else been in this situation?

I know a lot of people would love for all this free time during the week come September and I probably sound a bit bonkers to some!

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I’ve got 3. 12, 5 and 2. It’s a lot of hard work and trying to entertain them all is difficult.

There is a lot to think about with 3. Cars need to be bigger - the number of cars with three full seats in the back is extremely limited and they’re expensive. You need two hotel rooms more often than not. Trying to get them all to various groups or clubs…

Of course I don’t regret my youngest - he’s wonderful - but I do often think about how our life would be easier if we’d stuck with two.

I have 2 and am planning it to stay that way. I just don’t feel I have the mental bandwidth for another. Already they both talk to me at the same time and I feel like I can’t give them enough attention. Mine are only 2 and 5 though slightly different stage.

My friend had a third (planned) who was a very screamy colicky baby which was a shock after the first 2 were relatively easy. I know she found it really hard to juggle that with the other two as well.

But saying that, if you really want another and there are no significant reasons that you shouldn’t, then why not. The age gaps might be tricky, with the older 2 close in age and then a gap.. you’ll have to have a 4th as company for the 3rd 😅

Thank you, I appreciate this. It's a very difficult decision as we will be entering the easiest phase we've probably had for 7/8 years.
I could spend more time on myself and more quality time with them once the youngest is in school but i can't shake the what if and it's really bothering me.

I think because im 34 and they are also getting older the pressure is so high because the age gap is already there for me to be waiting around.

I have 3. Ages 5, 2 and 0 (9 months).

honestly the third has been a joy and so far not awful like people make out. It’s the least impactful jump imo