Is it normal for a dad to hate his son?

[Richesme]

Another issue is, when my toddler acts up and becomes cling with me, my husband gets annoyed. He literally said I am really annoyed at this guy, if we divorce you can keep him…. When my toddler is in his mood my husband really enjoys spending time with him but he doesn’t allow any room for disobedience or tantrums. His patience runs out and tries to discipline him by making him cry even at times when he needs support. Like I know we shouldn’t anyways give in to their cries coz that’s how they get what they want but my husband can become really heartless towards him and call it disciplining. My heart breaks and when I intervene he has a go at me coz I’m making him spoiled. But I know my boundaries.

tries to discipline him by making him cry even at times when he needs support. Like I know we shouldn’t anyways give in to their cries coz that’s how they get what they want but my husband can become really heartless towards him and call it disciplining

Fucking hell. That is appalling.

He’s an abusive twat.

I hope you do get divorced so your DS can have a happy childhood instead of walking on eggshells in case dad decides to discipline him to the point of misery and tears.

You need to massively protect your toddler from this bully.

He sounds like a monster. You should leave.

you know this isn’t right, you know the answer to your question. 2 year olds do not have the capacity or communication skills to rationalise situations and control their emotions. You know this. Don’t let mysoginistic values control your son. He can seek comfort when upset with you, he can cry, he can express himself without being bullied by his father. You are being a caregiver when you respond to his feelings not a walk over. Do not excuse that. I think your husband would greatly benefit from a parenting course, because if he keeps this up your son will have a serious chance of having mental health issues in the future.