Pregnant with my third and I'm so unsure what to do..

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Hi,

I'm really not sure what I'm hoping to gain from this but I'm hoping someone may have been in a similar situation or be able to offer some advice..

I've just found out that I'm nearly 8 weeks pregnant with our third child. I already have two boys (3) and (11 months) they get on so well and I absolutely adore my time with them. They are both lovely, we've started getting full nights sleep again and it's fairly easy to find childcare if myself and partner go out for dinner or away for the night.

We didn't do anything to prevent the pregnancy and I thought I'd be so happy if it happened but now it's happened, I feel so anxious, sad and worried. I'm not sure I can go ahead with it, I'm so worried about upsetting the apple cart and ruining the time I can give the two boys. I'm worried about the strain it'll put on our relationship

Financially, we're absolutely fine and this doesn't really come into it. My partner has mentioned how hard it would be and we would need a bigger car etc. But for me, my main concerns are will it ruin a good thing with my boys, will I be putting so much extra pressure on us all, will our date nights be over and is it going to destroy my body. I just wish someone could make the decision for me and take it out of my hands. I'm in a constant state of worry

I always saw myself with a daughter and now I think, even if I knew it was a girl, I don't think it'd help my decision as I'd worry that would worry the dynamic even more so.

Thanks for listening and pleaseeee help 😒

My third is just 5 months - I was so nervous too, but it's the best thing we've ever done.

Some days are hard, but the love the three of them have for each other is unmatched.

I think you're probably in shock - give it a bit of time

@Redhotspicywine how old are your other two children? Have you managed to still make time for the older 2? Have you noticed any big changes in them? Do you have boys / girls or a mix? X

I have older boy, middle girl and baby boy

They are 6 and 4. Honestly they adore the baby, he lights them up and vice versa.

I found it easier than going from 1-2 as you already know how to split your time, and the kids are used to sharing you. I try and spend even a few minutes one to one doing something they like with me as much as I can. The older two also have each other to play with so are quite happy. I'm breastfeeding so that does take up a lot of time, but it's all been better than I thought even the hard bits.

Hi OP, I'm now in a similar position to you. Can I ask, sensitively, what you decided and how you're feeling?

In the same boat and have the same anxieties! I was desperate for a third but now I’m pregnant I’m so nervous - sending love!