Unexpectedly pregnant with third child. Older girls are 3&2 years. I would love the baby and my husband absolutely does not and really wants me to get an abortion. He has expressed how much he does not want a third, he didn't even really want a second but I pushed for a sibling. His reasoning is mainly his age, 42 (not even too old in my eyes) and he's not a fan of baby phase at all. I would be the one more concerned about the financial side of things, and the extra expense of a third. I would be concerned about the impact on our current, pretty perfect, family dynamic. We are so happy at the minute, seen the light at the end of a 3 year baby tunnel, so I would worry a new baby would upset that but I always wanted a bigger family than I had (we were 2). I think we would manage, we're doing phenomenal at the minute in my humble opinion! We love travelling though, so that could be impacted, my girls are the best of friends, how would a third girl fit in I wonder. I'm the main breadwinner and my career is stable and well enough paid.
I really think it would be so unfair on my husband if we go ahead with it, but equally I feel I could be consumed with regrets and resentment if I go ahead with the termination, or perhaps not, I was already coming to terms with only two in the last few months and our life is pretty great. I'm at a loss as to what to do, I wish I could make my husband happy without costing me so much. I am feeling so many mixed emotions, I feel like with either decision one of us is going to be deeply unhappy and that there is no compromise in this decision.
Of course this will be our own decision I would just love to hear others views on it.