Am I trying for baby no.2 too soon?

[Honeyx1]

My LB is 10mths & the love of my life. We have always wanted a big family so knew we wanted our children close in age so they are hopefully close to each other and share interests growing up. I can’t imagine loving another baby like I love my LB but I know I want a sibling for him more than anything as he loves other children.

we are currently not actively trying but not preventing & we have been having sex around my ovulation day this month.

i feel so nervous and apprehensive of what may come of this. I would be over the moon to grow our family but so nervous of not giving my all to my LB so soon in his life.

am I thinking too much into it? Should we stop trying for a while or is this a normal feeling when trying for baby no.2?

It's normal while trying, and will amplify during pregnancy if you feel sick and a bit useless, and then sky rocket once the baby arrives and you struggle to meet everyone's needs. But mine are now just turned two and just turned four, and all of that has settled down. They play beautifully together and I'm so pleased we have exactly two years between them. It would have been less if breastfeeding hadn't hampered my periods returning! Good luck!

I think you are overthinking it! (How old are you?) I was pregnant on DC1s first birthday but had suffered multiple losses by then and was in my late 30s so felt i needed to crack on. Lost that one, but had DT prem before DC1 was 2 years old. I love them all to bits but just want to say that sibling love and getting on with each other is not guaranteed by any stretch. Two of mine could not be left together safely in the same room until they were late teens. I remember reading (after I'd had them) about the "perfect age gap" between sibs (the book I was reading suggested 3 years; it was a book about managing sibling conflict) which I felt was unhelpful really for a book about sibling conflict where the target audience would already have more than one child and the gap between them was already an immovable fact ... you'll be fine, whenever DC2 arrives. Good luck. x

I was 6 months pregnant when my first born was 10 months (wasn’t planned) and I do feel guilty that my first will never remember a time with just us before their sibling came along. However, a decade on and it’s the best thing we ever did. I also love number 2 as much as number one and sometimes we think could that be possible but it is. They’re my Life. I’d say go for it.

I used to obsess over the perfect age gap, and thought I'd have exacting control over it. Fast forward one miscarriage between babies, and I truly feel fate will give you what you can handle. 2 & 1/2 years is perfect for us - I love love love this gap.

If you have the energy to go earlier, what a blessing. Just make sure your body feels ready - healthy, strong and on pre-natals as you'll be depleted from your last!