Baby no.2 too soon - guilt or normal?

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My LB is 1 in around 6 weeks time. We always said we’d wait until 1 to start trying for baby no.2. We’ve always wanted more children so part of me was like why wait, as we did want them close. However last night we had sex and my husband came in me during my ovulation phase (only according to app as I’m not tracking properly) and I just feel an immense amount of guilt of what could be. I would be happy but I just feel such guilt and so nervous/worried as opposed to the excitement of trying for my LB. Does this mean it is too soon?

my LB is everything & id love for him to have a sibling to have through life, so I know we’d make it work but is it normal to feel such guilt?

There is no “right time” as long as your body has physically healed enough. All ages gaps have their pros and cons. Actually a gap under 2 years often means there is less sibling jealousy although it’s hard work!

I think it's fine, I had DS in March and was pregnant with DD in December, it's definitely a pro for DS that he has his little bestie ...... although I may edit this when they are teens!

I think most women feel guilty when they're expecting their second babies.

It turns out fine in the end. There's always enough love for more than one child.

I got pregnant with my second child a couple of weeks after my first child turned one, so there is a 21 month age gap between them. They have the cutest relationship ever. Little besties!

I have a 20 month gap, so got pregnant when eldest was 11 months, (potentially like you, if you are pregnant now). Eldest just turned 3 now.
Guilt for the eldest I'd say is something that faded quickly. Everything is about him. The youngest has been carted along everywhere all her life. Spent so much time on the bathroom floor whilst eldest was toilet trained. Had naps abruptly ended when playgroups started. Had naps in the sling or on the way to playdates and playgroups. Been fed sitting in the car here there and everywhere. Eldest wants to go outside, baby was unceremoniously picked up from her contented play as I legged it after him.
It's really only now at 16m that she's starting to protest her own opinions and that is proving rather challenging for me!
It's also been absolutely exhausting.
Delightful to see them cuddling and laughing together, but gruelling physically, and mentally.
I think I'd recommend it for the (hoped for) long term benefits, but please make sure you go into it with your eyes open. I don't think I really understood how an older toddler could still be so needy physically and emotionally. Naively assumed by the time baby arrived, my eldest would be happily independently playing and walking. He could do those those things, but he didn't want to!!

I got pg with ds2 almost exactly around ds1’s first birthday
ttc the first took ages, we expected it to take ages with ds2 and in the end we dtd precisely once!

yes I felt a whole range of emotions including guilt. But perhaps unlike you I was an older mum and felt it unwise to hang around

anyway it was HARD WORK but now they’re 10 and 11 and I wouldn’t change anything at all

I’ve got 1yr between my two, (1yr 8 days to be exact). It was hard work and tbh,the first few months were a blur. My sons are as thick as thieves. I,believe there is no right or wrong timescale. I never felt guilt.

I had 15 months between my first two. It was my favourite age gap! So much fun.

22 months here and mine get on great together and they are in their 20s now.

i did feel guilt that when our baby was born they missed out on all the baby classes that I had taken our eldest to as I had no one to watch the eldest as everyone was at work.