Hello everyone.
i am almost 28 , recently got out of a relationship that laste 1.5 years. I thought it was the man i would marry.
we also lived together, mind you he brought all the furnitute from his old place into our new place.
the relationship was nice in general, we enjoyed each others company a lot. But when we fought he reacted very distant, and was not able to communicate. I am financially, very stable and have a very good job that I really love, I’m always looking to take the new steps in the job field. I was earning more than him, and he had dipped. Whenever I was talking about he stepped. He wants reacting as if it was not that big of a deal, and that things would fall into place. He also did not really seem to care about his career and what steps to take to go further. Sometimes he also jokingly said that if we were to have children, it would be easier that I would keep on working, and Thia could take care of the children which I really didn’t like. .
once the discussion about a separating came along, quickly, made a date to move out.
So we did take all of the necessary steps.
when he moved out, he took all of his stuff and furniture, and went away. i bought new furniture and stayed in the apartment.
Now, almost 3 weeks later he wants us to get back together and claims he cannot live without me. I am asking myself why he even went away in the first place, if he really couldn’t handle it. I know I was the one who cut ends but I still feel like he could have fucked more for the woman he proclaim to be his dream, wife, dream, woman, and mother of his children.
Now I’m sitting here, more overwhelmed, and never all of my family and friends. Tell me that it’s not a good idea to get back together with him, I think part of the problem is also my insecurity and my fear of being too old to find love again.
i really want to start a family someday, i am afraid of regretting my choice, but i am also afraid that this type of love is not my exact definition .
is it too risky to end a relationship in your late twenties and start over again?