Losing an ovary and family planning

[TheDogAlan]

I’ve recently had to have emergency surgery to take out one of my ovaries and am now considering family planning. I am only 23, and my fiancé is 24. I’m currently out of work, and he earns a £20,000 salary and can’t get any other work for at least 3 years. We rent a 1 bedroom flat in the city my fiancé works in and his pay barely covers our bills as is. However, losing an ovary and becoming hyper aware of fertility has made us seriously consider trying for a baby now whilst we still can.
Is this incredibly irresponsible? I worry about not providing a good life for a baby with such little combined pay. Does anyone have experience of having children on low income in the current economic climate? Or any advice in general?

I had huge fertility issues and, kindly, you would be bonkers, for all the reasons you list! Now is not the right time.

Research shows that the remaining ovary often compensates for the missing one…!

How about creating a five year plan for where you want to be in your life, career, savings, house and family etc and working towards that?

Why don't you have a job? Why can't your bf look for another one within 3 years? Maybe fix these things, then think about trying to concieve.

I had my ds at 21 so age isn't the issue but I had a degree, a mortgage, and a steady income. Even then it wasn't easy! Take a couple of years to get yourself financially in a good place, at your age it won't make any difference to fertility.

As @Online384 said, your fertility after losing an ovary usually doesn’t take a total nosedive like many people think!

I had an ectopic pregnancy rupture last summer which had implanted between my right ovary and fallopian tube. It caused some pretty gnarly damage. At my follow up appointment a few weeks after my surgery, I asked my doctor about chances of conceiving naturally in the future, and she told me that my odds were more or less the same as if I had two working ovaries because the one good one will compensate for the missing/broken one.
With all the circumstances you’ve described, personally I wouldn’t be TTC right now. And given your age? You’re so young, you’ve got plenty of time to get your financial ducks a bit more in a row ❤️

Totally irresponsible I’m afraid

Thankyou for your (mostly) kind replies ❤️ I’ve been looking for a job for months now and have had no luck, not even getting interviews for low skilled jobs despite having lots of experience and a science degree! My fiance is studying to get a PhD @TartanMammy and therefore can’t get a different job or negotiate higher pay.
@MsNevermore thanks so much for letting me know your doctor’s insights, I had a post-op appointment to discuss fertility but my doctor was very dismissive and not helpful at all!