When did you know you were ready for baby no.2?

[Honeyx1]

My baby is 9 months and I have always known we would like 3 children if we are able.

I would like them close in age so we agreed to start trying again when LB is 1 as it could take a while to conceive and that is the smallest age gap that I think is manageable for me.

however, I just feel this intense guilt on my baby that I am almost replacing him and won’t be present for his toddler stage etc. is this a normal feeling or is this showing me I’m not ready to start trying at all?

I got pregnant when my baby was exactly 12 months old. His brother is 21 months younger than him. I assumed it would take a few months to conceive as it took 4 months the first time. It happened immediately. I look back now and think my oldest was still just a baby. I think a bigger gap would have been better. Don’t count on it taking months to conceive the second time around.

We started trying for DC no.2 when our first turned 18 months, I really missed the Baby phase so as soon as my DC started to be more independent I desperately wanted another. It took us almost 2 years to conceive so our age gap wasn’t as close as we would have liked. DC3 was a surprise baby, fell pregnant when DC2 was 7 months!