Hello,
I'm not normally an individual who looks to seek support online, however I'm so upset I feel I would like to connect with others who may have had a similar situation whereby they can relate.
Myself F37 and fiance M34 are currently undergoing IVF. It is NHS funded and I had to lose 13 kg to achieve the NHS funding. Historically I have always been a heavy person, however Ive never looked as heavy as the figure on the scales as I was a avid gym goer and have muscle mass.
As an adult have always been around 73-80 kg mark however I did go upto 95kg during covid as had a few years of significant stress that caused slow weight gain and I was simply too stressed out and focused on other things to pay attention to it.
As I said, between July-December 2024 I lost 12 kg to secure NHS funding for IVF, however it was challenging, keeping track of everything I put in my mouth, exercising, monitoring how much water I was drinking etc and I was becoming obsessive with it. Since December to now I have lost another 1kg but in a more relaxed manner.
We had our first cycle in Feb 25 where I had a poor response to the drugs, only retrieving 4 eggs and only 1 fertilizing. The fertilised egg made it to a blastocyst and it looked good. We paid an additional £2000 for Pgta test which came back inconclusive as the clinic where unable to get enough genetic material for the test.
Myself and my partner have decided to go ahead with a transfer rather than further testing as we feel it's a waste of money, waste of time(it's been over a month for the result and rev) and could potential damage the 1 embryo.
I am upset as I have been told that the clinic have to weigh me again to check my BMI as it's been 3 months since my previous one and they have to do it because of the guidelines.
I only just scraped through with my BMI the first time and now I have to relive it all again. I'm currently 82kg and a size 10 and I have 0 heath issues, even the fertility issue is unexplained. My bmi is like 29.5 and if retain water, I can easily gain 2kg overnight.
I'm just so upset as I've been told that basically if my BMI is more than 30 I wont be able to have the transfer. I can't help I am naturally a more heavier person and I'm at al loss of what to do as I have to start adopting unhealthy eating practices to lose more weight to comfortably tick the BMI box.
When I was 75kg my Bmi was 27 and you could see my ribcage and a size 8.
Has anyone experienced anything like this? I feel completely discriminated against and emotionally shattered