Pregnant less than year after birth

[Mrsbarkerbakes]

I cannot begin to even register the results of a Positive Test I took this week ????? DH and I have been sleeping separate since LO born and I am mortified and confused and really at a loss of what to do next Of course I know biology is biology only it just took us 3 years to try for our current baby and we were somewhat sure it was just luck we successfully conceived

Have both said we really wanted to just focus to give all our attention to our new LO as we really wanted this experience. Cost of living + small home + DH travels for work + I recently resumed back to work… just doesn’t seem possible for us right now

Seeking similar stories… I think ?????? Also the options… looking into every avenue as not 100% on this new pregnancy

Hello OP! I was in a similar situation although my LO was just over 12 months old. It had taken us over one year of trying for my second child and we assumed it would take similar or longer if we truly wanted a 3rd… but it took just one cycle. I was, quite honestly, devastated at first, I’d just got back to work and was so embarrassed.., but I’m now sitting here with my little girl (3rd baby) in my arms and she is a blessing. It’s hard work with a small age gap but so worth it.

I also know a mum at school who is on her 6th pregnancy! She has two lots of children with less than 1 year gap. Nothing to be ashamed of, it’s life :)

so with this in mind, congratulations on the lovely news. It might not be what you expected but it will all be ok xxxx

This happened to me and my ex-husband. We tried for over two and a half years for the first pregnancy, and had just been to the doctor for investigations, when I fell pregnant with Dc1. I was still exclusively breastfeeding when I got pregnant again, I must have conceived on the only night Dc 1 slept more than two hours at a time! Dc2 was born fourteen months after Dc1. Two pregnancies so close together with two bad sleepers certainly took its toll on my body, I was ill with one thing or another for most of that first year. It was very hard for the first few years, but the Dcs are both in their late forties now and I am glad I had them both close together.

It took us about a year to conceive DC1, who was exclusively breastfed. My periods came back at four months so I knew I was fertile again, but given my history I didn't think there was any chance of getting pregnant quickly, especially with the breastfeeding. I got pregnant literally first try, when DC1 was seven months old, and I couldn't believe it. I was in shock for a few weeks. They are sixteen months apart.

Anyway, roll on to now... they are grown now and still best friends. The first year was tough with two babies but we survived and thrived! As I always say on these threads, it can't have been too awful as their little brother arrived two years later. So for a while I had three under four. I have no regrets.

Took the best part of four years to have DS.... DD is 15 months younger!

Always wanted a 2nd so you kind of have to play the cards your dealt with. First few months were extremely tough but at 4 and 3 they generally get on like a house on fire. Same toys and same days out keep them happy. Nursery years are hard financially but are over with more quickly.

My DSC have 18 months age gap. So DSS was still a baby when DSD was conceived.
Your baby years run together, obviously there are pros and cons to having 2 so close together.
It's really up to you if you're ready to do this again.
DSS and DSD get on well but aren't particularly close.

My Mum had this - my brother and I are 15 months apart, and her Mum was really annoyed he was born in December rather than January so that she couldn’t say 2 years apart rather than 1 year 😂. I only started walking around the time he was born which Mum said was hard, but she said the best thing was there was no jealousy because I was so young I couldn’t remember a time when he wasn’t there. In lots of other ways though she said it was easy as we seemed to go through stages together and as he was big and I was small people thought we were twins. We’ve always been very close and he’s still the person who makes me laugh so much and we are now in our 50’s!

My Ds3 and DS4 are 12 months apart. The first few years are hard as you do everything twice over but it gets easier.

0ur eldest two are 17 months apart, I honestly didn’t find it difficult when they were young. But DS was a dream baby

They’re 17 and 18 now and best mates, there has never been any rivalry or arguments between them. It did mean we didn’t really get any time alone with DS, but twins or subsequent children don’t get that anyway, and it meant there has never been any jealousy between any of the kids.

They’re came as a pair in the early years then were in consecutive school years, meaning I built fantastic relationships with teachers and knew what was going on in class - even at Sixth Form they shared a tutor! DD missed her big brother as much as DH and I when he went to uni.

it was pretty standard until recently to have small gaps, my nanna had five in under seven years so don’t be mortified, it happens!

The issues with smaller gaps are finance and employment. As far as the family is concerned it is nice to have DC close in age as they do things together and always have a familiar face around.

Hello all

Thank you for your lovely words and posts Apologies for the delay I have been taking the time to digest this new information I am still currently not certain to which path route we will go down but I know DH was eased deep down upon reading your messages aloud to him

Such great words of encouragement, thanks again

What did you decide in the end OP?