It might sound silly, just need some advice.

[Sameoldtiredmum]

I have a little girl first baby who is 5months old, my husband comes from a large family he’s the oldest of 8 siblings. I only had one brother, me and brother are 11 months apart, technically Irish twins. 😂 we had a conversation the other day about giving our baby a sibling in the future ( I had a very traumatic birth), but I have this huge guilt over my head, I don’t think it’s possible for me to love another baby the way I love her, i genuinely don’t think it’s possible. Has anyone been there anything similar that could help me understand especially if you’ve went on to have more children. Thanks in advance. Sorry if I sound crazy!!

Hello OP- it's not crazy at all to feel that way- but trust me, every single mother that has ever lived wonders how it is possible to love another baby as much as the first- and yet we do. Your heart is big enough for one more- or ten more! It just keeps expanding.

Absolutely OP, I think a lot of mothers feel that they could never love another baby as much as the first, and yet we do!

When my first baby was 5 months if someone had suggested a second, I would either have laughed until I wet myself (a regular problem whilst the pelvic floor still a little shaky) or run screaming.

I think something in our biology means relatively few women are up for a second baby straight away. Although I know a friend who wanted “2 under 2” and conceived very quickly, only to discover “baby no.2” came as a BOGOF … once the identical twins were born she did say it was pretty hard work having 3 little boys so close in age. They grew up to be lovely little lads and very close.

You shouldn’t rush yourself, you’ll know when you’re ready. And if you’re not ready, one day your dc will beg for a sibling and your feelings may well change at that point.

A lack of love certainly won’t be your problem.