Do I try for a 3rd

[Squeak1999]

I have been debating for months now or not to have a 3rd child I have DS's, I love them to pieces but they are a hand full some days.

I have always wanted 3 children. I also want to attempt for a girl, as I feel ill kick myself later for not trying if I had another boy I'd be happy too as it's another boy for the group. But I know a 3rd child carries its own battles. I wanted to have the kids all close together so they grow together and they'll be closer.

I'm still in debate with myself, if I have a 3rd it'll be my last. But I don't know if I'm asking too much of myself.

No I wouldn't personally. But you do you.
Do you have enough money for a 3rd? Enough space? Big enough car? Are you prepared incase they are disabled? What if you end up with twins? Do you have enough time to give all 3 your individual time? These are things to consider.

I have 3 and I wouldn't give the last one back now obviously but I have to admit I didn't think it through.

people say that they just slot in easily, they don't. It's a whole other person and it's a whole child's worth of work just like the other two.

Also consider finances, especially fitting them in the car and the fact that we now need three roomed accommodations on holidays which is a whole other level of expense.

I do love the chaotic joy of having a big family (relatively so in todays world) so I wouldn't change it but two is an infinitely more sensible number.

We have three and I love it!
I'm so glad we did not stop at two. Two kids household just seem to have a certain dynamic (no offence). Similar two 1 kid families. You just KNOW they come from a 1 child family.
I really really like the dynamic of having three. It seems like everyone is a little less self-absorbed. Because there just isn't a parent for each kid. So they learn to lean on each other and be less demanding of a parent's time. I love how my older two started playing together when the 3rd arrived. It is really hard to explain it in words.
I don't know, only you can make the decision, but so far for me I see only benefits.

Hmm. I have 3, 2 boys and a girl. I hate the idea people look at us and think we tried for a girl 🤢 i really wouldn’t do it if you are hoping for a girl, I know you said you’d take a third boy but you also said you want a girl. Do it if you want another kid.

3 is hard. It feels like double the work of 2, at least. Our life would be so calm if we’d only had 2 - but I perceive that ‘calm’ as boring, there’s no way I’d be without dc3 of course. I do like the hustle and bustle. But it’s a lot. I always have a list of requests coming in that I can’t keep up with.