Further child confusion

[Sophiealice89]

In short, I guess I’m just looking for other perspectives on this. I have a 4 year old who’s amazing. Myself and partner had a pretty traumatic time when child was born, not directly birth related, but more we found my mother in law suddenly had died and that forced me into labour.

this took a while to deal with and I’m sure I had some sort of post natal. We were both adamant no more children.

I have now seen the last 6 month, nagging feelings of broodiness that come and go with my menstrual cycle, but seem to get stronger and last longer as time goes on. I’m almost 35, and I know my decision will soon be final. Partner is now happy with 1, but I know he would accepting if I wanted a second. Both in fairly well paid jobs and in a good position. I just don’t know if these feelings are completely hormonal and will pass.

They are hormonal and will pass eventually.

Gosh what happened with your MIL sounds horrific, I’m so sorry - you must both have been very traumatised. However, that isn’t a reason not to have another child. What other reasons do you have got no more children?

To be clear, one child is a 100% valid choice. Also totally valid choice to have another. There is no right or wrong. So the key is why you think no and why you think yes :)

Thanks for the replies. I think just an element of how hard I found the early stages, if I could be given a 2 year old I’d have a second in a heartbeat. Just not sure I can do the early days again. It was also lockdown and a really dark place for me and my partner so I guess a pretty normal response. Just starting to reassess I guess given I’m approaching my 35th birthday! Plus, me and my partner both love training and working out, we are now starting to get a bit more freedom so that understandably has an effect. I guess the battle will go on whilst I’m feeling like this. Thanks again