3rd baby coming in FEB...help!!!

[Kitty165]

Hi everyone,

To say I'm terrified is an understatement. I have a 2.5 year old and a 19mth old and I'm expecting baby no 3 in Feb.

I found it EXTREMELY overwhelming with baby number 2 for the first year and it had an impact on my mental heath. I was very irritable and stressed. It has gotten easier over the last 4 months or so.

We have no help. Zero. We have nobody to take the girls for an hour and nobody to call when things get rough or if we need a break. It's very difficult. We manage and of course we adore the kids but it's so hard at times.

I'm wondering if anyone out there who also has no village can relate? How did/do you manage? Any tips on going from 2-3 babies. My eldest will be starting pre school in Sept so that will be a help but I'm just really petrified right now and unsure of how I'll cope with it all.

I've no time to take care of myself and I'm afraid it's having a negative impact on the kids.

Any advice or tips welcome 🙏 thank you.

I can imagine that you will feel overwhelmed @Kitty165. Have you discussed how you felt last time with your DP?

Do you and your partner give each other some time off? My DH and I did this at the weekend and it really helped, we each had an hour on Saturday and Sunday to do whatever we liked.
Do you definitely want to keep this baby (sorry if this is an upsetting question?).

Honestly, I don't know. I don't think it's an option for me so I have to go ahead and I don't think I could bring myself to doing it. I'm afraid to even bring that up with my husband. Yea we give each other time off but as you know it goes so quic.