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Puppies & possible IVF

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Slippersandwine · 11/04/2024 16:48

Next month I am undergoing a small procedure to have a look at my tubes after investigation at a fertility clinic last year & my appointment has finally come after 7 months of waiting… which wasn’t the most enjoyable wait (mentally) as my mind went on overdrive & decided I might not want to know the possible outcome. The outcome will tell us whether IVF or hormonal treatments are needed.

As I’ve had to wait a long time to even get to this stage I’ve put the whole process on a back burner a month before I got the letter as the constant testing last year really stretched me mentally & I haven’t even started the actual process yet… side note we have a dog, early 30s and have always look life by the horns. My partner has wanted a play mate for our dog for around 3 years now and we’ve fallen into a position where we have been asked if we’d like a puppy… usually I’d jump at the opportunity but I can’t help but think ‘what if’ for the near future and the mental stress ivf might bring. I would hate to give up this opportunity of a pup for something that might not even happen in the near future and what’s to say if IVF was the option given that there was a long wait for that process to begin let alone the possibly of finally falling pregnant.

The pup we are seeing has a very chilled out manner and our current dog is also very laid back and easy going so I know she will (hopefully) teach the pup well and whilst a pup will be a great distraction and stop my overthinking I wonder if anyone has had a similar situation, if I should just go for it, or if I should continue overthinking and possibly not take this chance for something that ‘might be’ but who knows when..

Thank you x

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sobermum23 · 11/04/2024 17:12

Hello!

So can just share my experience - 4 years of fertility treatments (successful IVF in the end!) but this was 2 years after getting my tubes checked. At the start of our fertility journey I was about to start training to become a counsellor - thought about not doing because of the 'what if' but went for it anyway. Thank god I did - the training was 4 years and crazily my successful transfer was 5 days after my final class. So I qualified as I got pregnant...so whilst not strictly similar I do always wonder what I would have done if I had put off the training. Obviously I hope you get the puppy and get pregnant quickly and it's chaos but amazing, but on the other hand having a puppy will be a wonderful distraction and would be awful if you get further down the fertility line and think what if! I hope that helps? Good luck (with both TTC and puppy!)

Slippersandwine · 11/04/2024 19:16

Oh it really does help, thank you for sharing your experience with me & wow, 4 years! Can I ask was that just the usual wait time for IVF after having your tubes checked?
How fabulous to know it worked in the end… someone said to me today I shouldn’t put life on hold for something I’m yet to know anything about / what if plus I think we’re pretty good at adapting these days aren’t we.. thank you xx

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sobermum23 · 11/04/2024 19:20

No I did 6 rounds of clomid with a break in the middle to re/focus! For me, I think we decided to go for IVF in the Oct, and did our first round the following March. Once we were in the clinic and seen the consultant it was very quick - but the tests etc take a while!
Another thought - we have a dog who is 4. I 100% would not get a puppy for years now I have a baby! Could not handle it - so get the puppy now before (hopefully!) the baby comes along! Good luck Smile

Loz365 · 11/04/2024 19:28

I'm currently 3 years (and 3 months to be precise!) down the TTC road. Had 2 miscarriages, 1 very recently and still waiting for it to finish to start TTC again.
We'd wanted a dog for a few years and initially put it off because we'd decided to start trying, after the 1st miscarriage in 2022 we took the plunge and got our black lab and honestly I'm so happy we did. It gave me something else to focus on, yea there were times when he was a puppy that really tested us but i don't regret it. Now during this second miscarriage I'm so glad to have him around. My advice, don't put anything off while trying to 'plan' fertility treatments, it's such an unknown so I'd say crack on and get the puppy 🥰

sobermum23 · 11/04/2024 19:40

Loz365 · 11/04/2024 19:28

I'm currently 3 years (and 3 months to be precise!) down the TTC road. Had 2 miscarriages, 1 very recently and still waiting for it to finish to start TTC again.
We'd wanted a dog for a few years and initially put it off because we'd decided to start trying, after the 1st miscarriage in 2022 we took the plunge and got our black lab and honestly I'm so happy we did. It gave me something else to focus on, yea there were times when he was a puppy that really tested us but i don't regret it. Now during this second miscarriage I'm so glad to have him around. My advice, don't put anything off while trying to 'plan' fertility treatments, it's such an unknown so I'd say crack on and get the puppy 🥰

I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. But also wanted to say snap as ours is a black lab too! The first couple of years were definitely challenging but he was an amazing motivation to get out when things were going badly!
Good luck with the rest of your journey! Hope your lab gets a sibling soon (although I'm not sure mine is entirely convinced my baby is a positive addition to house yet a year in...)

Rosesanddaisies1 · 11/04/2024 19:40

My only reservation would be financial, in terms of food and vet bills and insurance. I assume you’d get some IVF funded by NHS but if unsuccessful and you decide to go private for more rounds, it’s a huge amount of money. But agree, you can’t plan around anything fertility wise

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