Wondering if anyone has any advice. We have a lovely 2 year old girl who brings us a lot of joy. But having her has also been extremely hard. She was just 1800g when we left hospital with her so feeding and sleep were both really difficult for months and she cried a lot as a baby. I think I'm quite scarred by the experience. She is now in terrible twos as well which we struggle with sometimes. My partner is great but my daughter has been very mommy focussed so she's often not wanted him to do things for her which has left him feeling rejected and put a lot of pressure on me. We also both have busy and stressful full-time jobs with a long commute.
We are wrestling with whether to have a second child. We want her to have a sibling, and I think I also worry that if I don't have another I'll regret it. I'm 38 so I feel like there's not much time left, but I also feel like I'm just getting back to myself and the thought of going back to square one really scares me and I worry that I'll be overwhelmed and my relationship with my partner will suffer. I'm worried that if I have a second child it will be more out of fear that others will think my daughter is spoiled or selfish than because I really want another. But then I also worry that it's selfish of me to not give her a sibling. (I have three siblings myself and can't imagine being an only child).
Any advice from people who've chosen to just have one child or from people who have more would be much appreciated!
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Should I have a second child?
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NancyB38 · 29/01/2024 14:57
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