abortion

[Butterflymask]

hi,
i hope any one can give me some help , my daughter who is 19 , i thought was very close with me , we have been through a lot together , she does have a sister and 2 brothers, been through broken marriage with me, and i thought we were pretty close , she has had 2 consecutive miscarriages, which i supported her through her devastation when the scan was non viable and cried to me, we all knew she was craving a child, then a couple of days ago i find out that she had an abortion , i and her sister are struggling to come to terms with it , as she was desperate for a child and do not understand why she didnt talk to us, where as we would of helped her and guided her with all the options open to her, to make the decision which was right for her, i am struggling as a mother and any help would be very much appreciated .

[Babyroobs]

She's very young to be contemplating having a baby. Maybe she just decided the time wasn't right after all . not sure why anyone would want to have a baby at 19 .

[Butterflymask]

thank you for your comment x

[theduchessofspork]

OP unless her situation is very unusual she is too young to have a child at 19. I’m guessing she realised this and that’s why she terminated.

You are her mum and you need to encourage her to build up her life - a job that earns her decent money and a partner for a start. Talk to her about why she craves a baby and why it would be better to wait. You need to do some parenting here.

[sleepymouseles]

I don't understand this. She's 19. Is she in a long term relationship? Even so, she and her partner have their whole lives ahead of them to have a baby. I wouldn't be supportive if my 19 year old said they wanted a baby. I'd be talking them right out of it