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Third child conundrum

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TRIXIBELLEA · 07/12/2023 22:45

I have two children DD who is three and DS who is nearly 1. I’m 38 and can’t decide about a third. I really would like another but myself and my partner are not married. This worries me in case anything happened either of us. While it has been complicated now as partner didn’t want to get married due to previous relationship, it seems he does want to get married now but hasn’t proposed. Anyways, should I wait, get married and then think about having a third? Our biggest issue is we have no help if the kids are sick, one of us must take off work. I’m a teacher so it’s difficult to take work off as I’m off so much anyway but I feel it’s unfair for my partner always to be off. I really would like another but I worry about whether it’s the right decision for our family or not!

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cestlavielife · 07/12/2023 22:50

Only you can decide if to take the risk, needing bigger car, extra childcare costs, extra costs holidays later due to needing rooms for five, risk of child with sen or medical issues etc . If you do not have family you have to buy in suppport.

If you have own income and will keep that then marriage not so important

thaegumathteth · 07/12/2023 23:24

Only you can decide but personally I'd not have 3 kids. I was one of 3 and hated it. Im sure many others have different experiences though!

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