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To be desperate for a second one?

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Happyday122 · 18/07/2023 08:51

Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice here. I have a lovely husband and a gorgeous little boy and we have a very nice, cosy life together. It took a long time to conceive our little one, who is now 3, but it eventually happened. Now we have been TTC again for two years, both our tests are a bit inconclusive, anyways it has not happened so far and I am finding I am getting increasingly desperate to know whether a second child will ever happen for us- it seems all I can think about, when a few years ago I never thought this was possible and I would be happy enough with just one DC (I found people who complained about "only" having one really annoying). I am unsure if I am that desperate for a second one as lots of people seem to be asking me if we will have a second one, or if its my age (35 now), or the feeling I have to give him a sibling, or my idea of a full table when we are older.... I really don't want to do IVF but don't seem to be able to just "relax and see if it will happen". Has anyone been in the same boat and if so, what did you do? Did you just keep trying or did you eventually just decide that one is enough and stopped trying? Really grateful for any replies. DH is very much like "what will be, will be" and happy with either scenario, I wish I could be more like that!

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AutieNOT0tie · 18/07/2023 09:39

Ivf is a long hard road for most people and doesn't have a guarantee of a outcome. It would impact on your whole family. If it was me I'd want to be very sure it's what I wanted. And your dh would need to be committed to. I certainly wouldn't make any decisions based on societal expectations . How many children you choose to have is nothing to do with any one else and my response would be "I don't want to discuss my private health if you don't mind "

Happyday122 · 18/07/2023 12:04

Thank you. I suppose what I am trying to explore is how others navigated this situation!

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