Should we go for baby no 3

[MissusBe]

We have two fantastic kids, aged 5 and 3. We always wanted a bigger family but we have been on the fence for the past couple of years. We have good jobs but feel we may still struggle financially and also our support system is quite small. I love being a mom and I loved been pregnant. However, I am in my late 30s now and I know I need to decide whether it is now or never. I would love another and would be afraid I would regret it again. However, I know we would be more financially comfortable with 2 and would have a better life balance with 2. Would love some advice on what to do.

You should be endlessly grateful for the children you have and stop at two. Your focus should be giving them the best life possible, not having another child you can't afford comfortably.

Oh I'd say go for it! Yes you have more money with two kids but if you get decent mat leave you won't need nursery or childminder for two, just wraparound care for two at school plus care for the baby. It sounds like you are both on the same page with wanting a bigger family and I think it sounds like you will pine for what could have been.

I should declare my bias though, my older two were 9 and 6 when we had dd3 and it was a total joy.

It is a huge jump up to three. We had to get a bigger car, a bigger house etc. and travel is a nightmare. It’s always in 4’s! As are all family tickets to cinema/national trust etc. so a lot more expense and also a lot more work.

however, our number three is an absolute joy and filled a hole we didn’t realise was there.