Risks of pregnancy aged 48 - scared of coil

[Rockingchai]

I’m 48 next month. I’ve been in a relationship with a lovely man for a year and using the mini pill. I’ve just had a high blood pressure result for the first time in my life so I want to come off it - hated the side effects anyway.

I’ve just been on the phone booking an appointment to have the coil fitted. I’m so scared - not just of the pain, but of the long list of risks that I was informed of. Perforation of the womb, pelvic inflammatory disease etc.

Why am I even doing this? I couldn’t get pregnant during my late 30s despite trying for three years (save one brief pregnancy ending in m/c). The risks of pregnancy now must be almost zero.

Any advice? Perhaps I should pay for a fertility test and if that comes out as almost zero I should just come off all contraception?

Partner could have vasectomy and probably would do this - but I hate the thought of him changing himself like that too (sexually I don’t find the idea at all attractive!).

I hate condoms.

Partner is more worried about the risk of pregnancy than me and I also don’t want to cause strain on our relationship by giving up contraception.

I would use contraception until Im 12 months without a period. Chances are probably low but I wouldn’t want to take any risks.

Im also intrigued as to why you would you find vasectomy unattractive?

How can you find a vasectomy sexually unattractive? You can't see it's been done! How odd!

Mmm.. not sure how you can tell a man has had a vasectomy?
Personally, I’d go for the V as I’d hate to fall pregnant at that age - but maybe (underneath it all) it’s something you want?

So weird that you think a vasectomy is a turn off. Why do you think that? You can't tell or see any difference.
Personally I would stick to condoms as the coil is still putting hormones into your body like the mini pill does.

I understand that a vasectomy causes some to be clear, like water - I think this sounds horrible personally. That’s why,

And no I do not want to become pregnant subconsciously - I have an adopted son aged 11 - I do not want a baby aged 48!!