Would you take an ept in this position?

[NervousMummy]

I know, I know, take one if you suspect.. But i can't. Here's my situation, i forgot my pill 2 days in a row like 2/3 weeks ago, I didn't have bleeding etc, and I felt I was fine- I'm now having burning boobs and nausea. So I decided to not take my pill. I decided if i don't bleed I'll test. I'm spotting brown, but the boob burn and nausea are pretty strong.

Hubs would lose his crap if I mention buying a test, he's mentioned multiple times our extra money is abortion money, and we have one car and online profiles shared so I can't buy one discreetly..I mean since I'm spotting after stopping the pill for some days I can't be pregnant... Right??

Obviously, I would tell him if I am but I don't want unwanted freak outs or stress ☹️

I'm sure I could find a way to get a test somehow, but does it sound plausible enough to risk trying to get one??

You should test, but you should also be questioning the dynamics of your relationship. It shouldn’t be a risk trying to get a test and him saying extra money is abortion money sounds abusive and controlling. It’s one thing to not want a child but another to insist if you ever end up pregnant you would be getting an abortion. He sounds awful from what you’ve said here, and that he has no respect for your bodily autonomy.
Could you do a supermarket run, buy a cheap test and do it in the toilet of the supermarket if you’re wanting the privacy?

Abortion money? Yikes 😳😳😳😳😳😳

We have only one car at the moment, and I'm relearning to drive after a very very long hiatus, he wouldn't feel safe if I were alone. I know he sounds controlling etc but I know he is just freaked out since our current child is very adhd and emotionally difficult.

Why would he not feel safe if you nipped out to the shops? He does sound very controlling. Are you able to go out and work and pick up a test that way? Or do you have any friends who could pick up a test for you?

Your update about him doesn’t make him sound any better- if he is that freaked out about another child then the extra money ought to be vasectomy money not abortion money!