Hi all,
Not sure if anyone will have any awareness or experience of this. Through 23andMe we have just found out that my partner and I both carry this gene variant, which the provided information states could result in a 25% chance of us having an effected child.
Non-syndromic deafness is present from birth, non-progressive and is a spectrum from very mild hearing impairment all the way to profound deafness.
I’m still just working through all my thoughts and feelings about it all, and was hoping to gather some other views to make sure my pondering on the subject is rigorous enough, really.
I feel like if we’d not known this information prior to TTC, and been presented with a deaf baby, we would have gone about our lives and done our absolute best for them and accepted it. But now that we do know of the risk, it feels ethically wrong to willingly take the risk of having a deaf child, in a world that is still not set up to cater to disabled people.
I think our next steps will need to be speaking to a genetic counsellor, I can access this privately if necessary, but will speak to GP in case going through the NHS would help access more options in terms of IVF/Embryo selection (don’t even know if this is an option at the moment), etc.
Please understand I’m not saying I’d hate to have a deaf or disabled child, I’m just saying that I’m aware that it’s a harsh and unkind world out there, and if there is some way that I can make sure that our future children don’t have to struggle then I would like to explore that. I’m a nurse by background, so I’m confident that I can navigate the system and do my best to advocate and care for a child if they were effected, but of course it would be better for everyone, especially a child, not to be deaf.
Music, gigs, playing in bands, etc are very big parts of both our lives, the thought of our child not having access to something we enjoy so much is really difficult to come to terms with.
Can anyone signpost me anywhere with more information? Do you have this gene? Do you have a deaf child and feel comfortable to share your experience?
Thank you.