Permanent contraception advice?

[Gmamaofboys13]

I'm in my 30s, married for 10 years, 4 months post birth of second child. Both me and my husband do not want another child, cannot afford another and we have no room ect.

After the birth of dc1 I had the copper coil inserted, then had it replaced with the mirena and had that removed when ttc dc2.

I'm going to have the mirena coil inserted again next week, but I find the coil insertion extremely painful and uncomfortable.

But, my question is, AIBU to have asked my husband to seriously consider a vasetonmy? He says he doesn't want yobecause he's sqimish and sensitive in that area.

I've tried explaining that I have the coil inserted even though it's not nice for me, and I'm considering having my tubes tied. Either way, due to circumstances is a more permanent form of contraception an unreasonable thing to consider? Is it easier for a man to have a vasectomy or a woman to have her tubes tied?

If I did become pregnant, I have told him that I would keep the baby. And he's okay with that, but I'd like to reduce the risk as much as possible.

My DP refused a vasectomy (which is most certainly less physically challenging in the short and long term than pregnancy, birth and coil fittings) for the same reasons. We talked about it on and off for 10 years after DC 2, while I struggled on with the effects of contraception. It’s his body so his choice and although I respect that I certainly think less of him for his refusal. I was sterilised my self in the end.

I think it kind of depends on various things. If you put vasectomy out there as one of the options, including discussing getting tubes tides, different contraception options including what you would both feel about a pregnancy occurring, then I would be fine with that discussion. I would listen to my husband's opinion on procedures effecting him, as presumably he would listen to those regarding me. I would feel really off to outright suggesting he undergo any procedure . To be honest my husband has also never in 20+ years asked me to take any form of contraception. I have done, off and on, when I felt I wanted to and it was for the best for us both, but he will work around whether I'm on it or not and adapt accordingly. So in my marriage asking him wouldn't feel right for us, that doesn't mean that it wasn't a normal suggestion for your relationship though.