Passing pregnancy without partner… peoples experiences please ?

[Gcp1992]

Hi,

So I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago and me and my fiancé decided to have an abortion as since having our first DC we are not in a very good place to have another… especially as he’s been unhappy since we had the first.

We have since broken up yesterday and he’s left me to pass the pregnancy myself tomorrow whilst leaving me to look after our child….

I literally don’t think he has any clue and is clearly so self consumed he can’t even think about his now ex fiancé and even his child.

Is there someone else who come come over for the day to help you with your toddler? A close friend? A sister or your mum if you’re ready to tell family? If you don’t want to tell a friend of family what’s really going on, could you all in a favour and your pack toddler off on a playdate because you have a ´medical appointment’ that involves lots of waiting round?

Sorry he is such a twat. Remember how he abandoned you when it is over and he tries to come grovelling back.
Make sure he provides for your dc and seek support elsewhere..

Have you asked him to have his child for the day? Even a few hours?

My friend has suggested she comes and picks up my daughter as she has heard it could be really painful, wondering if anyone else has experienced it before and been in so much pain you can’t look after your little one?
I have hinted that I will need help and he’s not offered it and to be honest I don’t want anything from him, he can’t offer any emotional support and I’d rather he was not looking after my DD as he is currently taking unprescribed meds another reason for the break up.

I have had two abortions at 6 weeks. They are not massively painful at all. There's some horror stories out there but mainly put out there by pro lifers. They are just like a painful period, you'll get a episode of strong pains, mine lasted around an hour or so, in which it passes. I'd say it's more than possible to look after a child but realistically your going to just want to do it in peace and rest.

Take your friend up on her offer. It will be easier to deal with if you’re not worried about whether or not you’ll cope with your daughter there. - it may be emotionally quite a difficult day. Physically if you’re on your own you can lie in bed with a hot water bottle or take a hot shower or whatever you need whenever you need it.

I feel for you . My idiot ex took me to get the first pill then when I had to go back and get the second he completely abandoned me . So there I was had to get a lift of my dad 😮 and just about made it home before I started to bleed . That’s when you had to take the tablets in the clinic though. Wasn’t to painful no . Was abit messy lots of bleeding but I did it all on my own and it was fine. If you can get a babysitter definitely try to just do you can have a relax after x