I really dislike partners cousin, should I allow her to see my child?

[laylaloox]

Hi,

Would just love to hear everyone's opinion on the following situation.

Iv been with my partner for around 4 years and we are expecting. He recently told his family and they seem to be happy. His female cousin who I don't get along with has asked if she will be seeing the baby.

Fast forward to a few years back, when I first met her. She seemed alright. Back then I made a extra effort, as I wanted her to like me.
During the first year I was with my partner, I got pregnant. At the time I wasn't ready and made the decision to have an abortion. I still feel guilty to this day. Anyway my partner told his cousin (I don't know why) and she brought up my abortion in public restaurant with 'her' friends sitting at table. Who I barely knew. I was shocked and upset. But tried to move past it.

During that first year I found her to be manipulative and nasty, she posted horrible pictures of me on nights out. Which she refused to remove. When asked (As she liked them) and it got to the point I refused to see her or be around her.

I would never stop my partner seeing his family, so he has continued a relationship with her.
However now that we are expecting, I don't want my baby around her. She has never apologised to me. I told my partner her children are welcome to visit the baby as they are innocent. However I don't want her around me or my child.

Am I wrong for feeling this way?

You're not wrong for disliking someone who has treated you badly so I understand where you're coming from. But the baby isn't just yours. He's your partner's as well, so doesn't he get a say as to who sees the baby? And if he wants his cousin to see his child, I don't think you have a right to stop him. You don't have to be present, though. I'm sure he could take the baby on a visit on his own.