How long were you with DP before getting pregnant ?

[CocoLady]

I had my dd with my ex after 8 months of being with him, we did love eachother but What I thought about him wasn't correct and his true colours were shown after a while and through other reasons we split when she was a year old.
We co parented from then and it's been up n down but she's a very happy little girl and we are much happier without being in a relationship than we are togther !
He has a new partner and so do I.
How long was it before you got pregnant or had a child with your ex or current partner ? Xx

5 months. Was 17 years ago. We now have 3 and are still v much in love.

Ten years together, 5 and a half years married.

7 years together, 4 years married. Then another 4 years until I had our second.

We met when I was 16, got married when I was 22 had DD when I was 30 so around 14 years.

first husband, 2 years before marriage, then 2 years after marriage before we decided on a baby. It was still a mistake and he showed his true colours (abusive) when i was pregnant. so time isn't necessarily any guarantee you know someone

5 weeks. Obviously not at all planned and I definitely wouldn’t recommend it, it was a very rocky couple of years with getting to know each other and be first time parents. However that baby is now 16, we’ve had another 3 children and yesterday celebrated 16 years of marriage too.

@katy1213

He wasn't really a DP if you had a baby after 8 months together, was he? Sounds more like a quick shag and oops, the baby came early.

That’s just plain rude.

One year.

Have now been together 24 years.

@UnmentionedElephantDildo The board is entitled 'family planning' and the OP has asked how long people were together before the planned (or didn't plan) to start a family. Seems an ok fit to me. Let it go eh?

I first met my husband end of April 2014, I'd just turned 21 when we met, he was 29. I was a student and he worked full time but we still made it work, and couldn't be happier.
We became a couple 9th may 2014. We decided to start trying for a baby in July 2014, we moved in together in October 2014, I got pregnant in November 2014, we found out I was pregnant 19th December 2014. We got engaged 13th January 2015, and got married 9th April 2015. Baby was due 30th August 2015, was actually born on 5th September 2015.
So we had been together exactly 11 months the day we got married. I know it's very quick, being married and expecting a baby within less than a year of being together, but it worked for us. We had discussed marriage and both agreed it was what we wanted, but we weren't officially engaged. But when we found out I was pregnant we both knew it was important to us to be married before the baby was born, and I didn’t want to be showing if possible, so we made sure we were. It was perfect. Some people might think we only got married because I was pregnant, but that was never the case at all.

5 years, so far. Married 6 months ago and TTC now.

3 years together and I had known him for 15 years at that point but it was unusual circumstances. He is my second husband and the only one I share children with.

The whole date, get married, save up for a house, and then have a baby traditionalism isn’t really about imposing out-dated values, it’s about giving people a chance to really get to know one another. Back in the day, women were still sort of stuck one way or the other, but these days women have financial freedom. We can take that getting to know you time to really test our potential parenting partner. I know I’m not the only woman who left a first marriage before having kids.

EXP 2 years, not long enough he turned out to be an arsehole.

DH 5 years, definitely the fight time.

You hear a lot of 'a few weeks' or 'one month' but it's rare it works out. IMO you need to enjoy spending time together and have fun before such a commitment. Also get married first!

just under a year

ExP - 5ish years, love my kids but what a mistake it was having DC with him, I feel guilty for it. He's a half arsed parent who makes out his children are important but his actions show the truth. So much so eldest recently asked to stop seeing him.

DP - 5months, I was however on the pull so it came as a shock. Sadly had a MMC back in May, we decided that if we were ready I wouldn't go back on anything & now am 35 weeks pregnant. I wouldn't advise falling pregnant that quickly but u was using something & we do have a history so he wasn't a stranger to me anyway.

9 years together and 3 years married. Friends of ours have just had their first at 16 years together and 11 years of marriage

[quote DuzzyFuck]@UnmentionedElephantDildo The board is entitled 'family planning' and the OP has asked how long people were together before the planned (or didn't plan) to start a family. Seems an ok fit to me. Let it go eh? [/quote]
Yes, family planning as in Family Planning Association ie contraception.

Look down the thread titles as you'll see

If interested in TTC, there's a conception topic. Or parenting and family arrangements generally there are several possible topics.

I can see the contraception topic interest in how long it takes various methods to clear the system (can be important for reproductive intentions). I know MN generally has a 'post anything anywhere' ethos, but in the subject topics, people generally stick to the topic.

And in the contraception topic it is the relevant angle.

8 years

I had my 1st child with ex-husband 5 years after meeting, 2nd child with DH 4 years after meeting

9 months. But we have now been together nearly 14 years.

6 months but that ended in ms.
We where together nearly 4 years when ds1 came along.
Still together 30 years later.

17 years! Ha
I wanted to be sure 😄
Met at 17. Had a bloody good time in our youth and got married at 31, first baby at 34.

6 years

3 months