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Small age gap between children

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SkyeEvie15 · 07/09/2020 13:52

What age gaps does everyone have between their little ones? How do you cope ect preferably people with around 15 months age gap?Baby no 2 pending...

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Babdoc · 07/09/2020 18:46

16 months between mine, OP. It got all the nappies/vomit/sleepless nights out of the way in one fell swoop, and it meant the DDs would happily play together as they were at roughly the same stage.
I used to read a story to DD1 while feeding DD2. And they had their bath and their bedtime stories together, which saved time.

It was very tough for me, as DH died suddenly when the DDs were just 11 months and 27 months. But I managed to raise them alone while working as a hospital doctor.
I found a large playpen was v useful, as I could keep the baby safe from the toddler while I was in the bathroom, cooking, or answering the door.
I never bought a double buggy, just put my toddler on baby reins and had her walk beside the pram. She soon developed sturdy legs and a good exercise tolerance.
I think any age gap is manageable- there are pros and cons however you space your family, but close together worked ok for me.
It only got tricky when they graduated from two universities 200 miles apart on successive days - it was a mad dash to make both ceremonies and celebrations!

FinallyHere · 07/09/2020 18:55

@Babdoc

as DH died suddenly when the DDs were just 11 months and 27 months.

Goodness, respect to you for continuing. Amazing, I hope your D.C. realise sometime what you have managed.

Or maybe not, who could comprehend what this takes. Respect. All the very best.

Yeahnahmum · 13/09/2020 15:41

You just cope. I guess 😊 and wonder why they hell you didnt wait any longer😂. It is tough. As you will have a newborn and a tiny toddler that doesnt follow any instructions nor understand what you want from him/her 😊. I wish i had waited longer in between my kids btbh. For me the first year and a half /two years were tough and i wished on many occasions that i waited longer to get pregnant with my second baby. My kids are now (and always have been) bff's. Which is kinda super sweet and that tiny age gap may have definitely cemented that
So for THEM i think it was the best thing to happen. For me and my mental health no... so keep your friends close. And watch for pnd. (Which i had after my second ) i felt that my life was being lived. I wasnt living. Just coping being a mum a wife and an individual too. I should have talked more with friends. But never had many so that makes it hard. But yeah. Keep talking. And have a good cry/glass of wine/me time every now and then/often. And dont forget to invest time in your relationship. Very; very important. As the whole world will revolve soley around your kids. Which is logical but is also the reason why people end up breaking up/divorcing. It is hard. But doable
And then it becomes better and easier and more fun. And your babies will become toddlers and preschoolers and life (for me) was much better then 😊😊

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