Hi everyone,
I am 25 years old.
I used to have a really high sex drive and I would think about sex all the time - irrespective of how attractive I found my partner. Just the thought of sex was enough.
I've had the same partner for 3 years and whilst I've never found him irresistible or "I'd like to rip your clothes off" attractive (which is too rare for me unless they're movie star attractive and that isn't happening!!), I've always had a strong sex drive with him. I love him very much but I've never found him that attractive and that's not anything new; it never affected our sex.
Whilst I understand sex drive ebbs and flows due to stress, long term relationships etc, my sex drive is practically gone and that's just not like me at all.
Is it even possible that I could suddenly lose it all together due to the coil, despite being 3 years in?
Some people have said that they've had no problems with their first coil and lost their sex drive altogether with their second. others have said their sex drive returned once it was removed.
One person said that there is a link between progestin, sex-hormone globulin and testosterone, which could alter sex drive but we just can't know for certain.
I sometimes get a lot of pain from deep sex and attribute it to my cervix. I have been checked out, had a smear test, I don't have an STI, and the coil has not dislodged but I wonder if sometimes when I have sex in certain positions and nock it, that it causes some minor inflamation or irritation?
BUT are these things even connected?
Please advise.
I am really worried it won't ever come back and now I'm also concerned it will negatively affect my relationship with my partner who's always up for it and feels let down. He's so supportive but i know he wishes i was my old self.
We can't all be obsessed with our partner's looks forever, but surely must be able to keep a relatively healthy sex drive when life isn't throwing us stressful curveballs?
I guess I'm hoping there is a connection because I can't accept that I'm just bored of sex and my partner. It's starting to feel like a chore and that just isn't normal for me :(
Sorry the post is long, I'm venting!
Thanks ladies.