Hi all.
I’m at my wits end basically about contraception.
I’m 32, DH 33. 2 kids age 11 & 5, both born my c section, eldest was 9 weeks early due to pre eclampsia and hellp syndrome and was tiny as well due to growth restriction. Having our 2nd child was risky but I was watched by consultants and made it to term. Also had multiple miscarriages in between.
For these reasons we’ve decided 2 is enough for us and we won’t be having any more babies.
I cannot take anything with oestrogen in it due to previous blood clot along with other risk factors in family. I’ve had all the mini pills and I bleed like crazy on them, same with the implant and the injections. I had the coil but ended up pregnant on it (one of the miscarriages happened as a result) so wouldn’t trust that again.
So at the moment we are down to condoms, which whilst effective, aren’t really ideal to a monogamous couple and aren’t exactly nice to use.
Due to the blood clot / blood pressure / previous multiple abdominal surgeries and therefore scarring etc I’m not a candidate for sterilisation.
And yes we’ve considered vasectomy for my husband but until we’ve exhausted every single other option out there we won’t consider it. Mostly because it’s for my health we aren’t having more children. I don’t want to take his fertility away unless absolutely necessary because you don’t know what the future holds. I’d like him to be able to father more children if he wanted to if something happened to our marriage or me. Whereas I wouldn’t have anymore by choice no matter who I was with.
Is there anything else I can try? Something I’ve missed somewhere?
If you’ve got to the end of this, thanks for reading 