Hi
So at a bit of a loss and feeling quite down about the whole thing.
So long story short in April I gave birth to a beautiful Lb was 5 weeks prem. The whole pregnancy I suffered from hg was in and out of hospital on ivs the whole time and on many tablets trying to control it. I also have a 4 year old LG who I had hg with but no were near as bad. On top of bad pregnancy I have had both babies my emergency c section ds was planned vbac but didn't go to plan seems I'm not design to carry or give birth. When I had ds I was advised by surgeon not to have anymore child as my muscles don't heal correctly (instead on healing in lays as they should they just mass together) and there was no way they would let me try vbac again would make me go elected section so recommend sterilisation .
So had my 6 week check at the doctors and asked to be sterilised which he point blank refused to refer me for I'm 34 married with 2 children. Explained to him what happen and what surgeon had said to me to which he rudely replied (reduced me to tears and I'm genally a strong person and most things go over my head) that if the surgeon was that bothered he should have done it there and then and even if he did refer me they won't do it as it cost to much. Seems that in my write up by the surgeon he didn't put that he recommendeds that I have no more children and sterilisation if he had they would of possibly considered it.
So roll on 3 months have an appointment tomorrow to talk about getting a coil put back in at family planning clinic as my doctors don't do it. Do you know if its worth talking to them about being sterilised are they able to refer you or other then going private is there another way of getting a referral.
I only ever wanted two children and know this is very final but I don't think I would cope with another pregnancy.
Sorry about the long post
Thanks in advance for all your help