After advice and experience please.
I needed fertility treatment to conceive DD, but understand you can be freakishly fertile after 1st period postnatally and at funny times like pre-menopause when your body chucks out all your eggs in a last ditch attempt to conceive.
Anyway, had horrific perinatal depression and eventually developed psychosis. It was literally like a switch went off at 25 weeks pregnant, then again 3 days, 6 weeks and 16 weeks postnatal. It’s taken me 18 months to recover.
Historically I also had severe depression when I have been on the combined pill - so I feel that now rules out any hormonal contraceptives.
DH and I finally DTD last week and I realised that the thought of accidentally falling pregnant (however unlikely) was literally the worst thing imaginable. It left me feeling a bit wobbly and scared until I took Levonelle. Over the past 18 months we’ve both discussed at length how we wouldn’t ever actively try for another child. We feel fortunate to have one and I couldn’t put him or DD through me being so unwell again. I really fear what would happen.
I don’t want him to have a vasectomy because the problem is mine and if we ever divorced, I was run over by a bus etc I want him to have the option of having a family with someone else. Plus he’s ridiculously squeamish.
So I’m seriously contemplating whether to ask for sterilisation. I really feel that it’s a case of if I were to get pregnant it would be life-threatening.
The only other option I can see is to have a coil fitted. But is there any point when I know I can’t have ever have children again for my own health?
Any thoughts appreciated.