Please can someone talk me through my contraceptive options?

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Hi, I have not needed any contraceptive for 10 years now so I would value some input before I approach my G.P. I intend to use condoms obviously but would like a belt and braces approach as I seem to fall pregnant with alarming ease.

My history;

I have a large, complete older family. No interest in more and about to become a grandmother

I don't react well to hormonal contraceptive. Various pills over the years have caused me hormonal hell and depo caused me to bleed continuously until out of my system (as in full period, full time)

I had a coil but partially rejected it after about 18 months resulting in my last dd.

I have used a cap before but found the drawbacks outweighed the usefulness.

Is my only/best option sterilisation? Would my G.P. consider that as I am officially "single"?

Are there things I've not thought of? It seems that my body tends to take anything that usual reduces or stops periods as a challenge!

Thank you for any input, I'm so out of date with things now I don't really know where to start!

Was the coil rejected due to weight loss?

I ask as I'm in a similar situation, my new GP was horrified that I had been kept on Marvelon past 35 and then I took one suitable and changed into a monster - was lucky for my supportive husband to be x who realised it was this new pill causing the issue. I'm a full time step mummy and want a child of my own but it's not quite right yet to try. I looked into so many options

If it helps I expelled my first copper coil but my second has stayed in quite happily. I use it alongside Persona fertility tracking

Rednailpolish, no I hadn't changed in weight. I don't know what marvelon is

Goodasitgets, thank you. My G.P. at the time tried to suggest another after dd basically saying there was little to no chance of a repeat but I just wouldn't feel confident. I have many more fertile years ahead and a pregnancy now would be disastrous for me (from a mental health pov).

The risk of getting pregnant again is the main reason I have chosen abstinence for so long. The thought genuinely terrifies me.

It will massively depend on your age and the number of children you have, but based on what you have said I'd say there's a fair chance of the Dr agreeing to a sterlisation (although I understand that it's quite a big deal so check into it fully).

The implant turned me (and everyone I have spoken to in RL about it) into a raging, hormonal social hand grenade after the coil was deemed not trustworthy enough for me by the doctor I spoke to.

I had DH neutered, but I can see how that might put off potential dates

Marvelon is a contraceptive pill, I was fine on it changed to the mini pill and the effects were awful for me - I went from happy person to wanting to kill my boyfriend if he put a toothbrush out of place, to being so depressed I felt I wanted to die (the very extreme if bad reactions but was awful) - so my GP ruled out any hormonal contraception for me again. I was going to try to the coil but I only get the copper as a choice and I'm loosing weight at the moment

I'm young still anklebitersmum. Well, under 40. I have 5 dc, two fully grown adults, one starting a family of her own.

I suppose I expect them to say "what if your partner wants dc" which a) he doesn't and b) wouldn't make any difference to my decision not to have more. The problem is, I can't produce a long term partner to back me up! Then is this too big a step? Fear of the risk of pregnancy has definitely affected my life.

I can't see that looking good on an OLD profile!

What we are doing now is getting "pregnant in reverse" I'm regular as clockwork and completely normal (witching hour excluded) so using ovulating sticks as its a risky moment - if your using condoms maybe that will give you some extra comfort x

I missed the other comments whilst I was writing my mine, but if a man after a few kids one went for a chop off job... Lol

No one would question him!!!

Ah, yes, the uncontrollable rage. I remember that. It's horrendous!

It took me a long time to realise I wasn't actually a mad women and the hormones were the problem. Having stayed away from them for so long and reached a nice happy plateau emotionally I am really keen never to touch them again to try other things!

Holy crap I was a bitch on speed and then some! Thank god for my loving boyfriend

I wasn't actually taking speed

I'm pretty regular but couldn't rely on things like that. The idea of having sex with just a condom is enough to make me not bother (even in the heat of the moment as it were) so I defiantly need a double up plan!

Actually, reading back, this fear has/is seriously affected my life. I hadn't thought about it "out loud" before.

For me the "mini pill" effected me so badly, I have little choice - it's different for me though as me and OH do want a chikd

bitch on speed is quite a good description actually!

You're right, a man wouldn't be questioned. Maybe times have changed and that is am option...

Just not yet, but if one happened it would not be a bad thing. But after my very adverse effect to the contraceptive pill I wonder why GPs don't talk about the coil as an option more often

And I was a bitch on speed! I was a nasty friggin individual. Shameful but thankfully I had someone who really loved me

Yeah I use the persona as a back up to the copper coil. Plus condoms on fertile days!

How does persona work? I have a feeling it's going to be a lot of work

It's like a little machine with sticks
Pee on a stick, put it in machine. Shows when fertile or not. The longer you use it the less peeing on sticks you have to do as it gets used to your cycle
I used it for 18 months alone and no problems (bought off eBay as people often sell them after using them to get pregnant!)

I shall look into that, I've been using your big standard sticks but the persona sounds great - not a fan of peeing on sticks - well I can't actually pee on a stick it's ridiculous so lots of plastic cups -never in a million years thought you would find them on EBay!