How can I get Doctor to listen to me re: sterilization?

[JonSnowKnowsNothing]

I am 29 and have known all my life I don't want to be a parent. I love my job teaching and love children, but parenthood is not a life that I want.
A few years ago I went through a horrible period of being bullied at work and I made some mistakes, resulting in me having a termination. At the time I spoke to the doctor about sterilization but he was very rude, laughed and told me no chance. I don't know why I asked him; he'd already given me shocking advice regarding the termination and I wish I'd complained.
Thing is, every single month where I've had sex, even though I use condoms, I'm becoming more and more distressed around the time of my period. I convince myself it's happened again and torture myself until my period arrives. I'm sick of it. I'm now booked in for the injection, but it's not enough. I want this worry to disappear.
Do have any chance of being taken seriously if I ask (new) doctor?
TIA

When I was 29 I felt the same same as you. DP and I had discussed it and we were both in agreement that we didn't want children. A few years later we both changed our minds.

Sterilisation is a big step and hard to reverse in a female. I would guess any doctor would be wary about recommending it for you.

It may be worth talking through your feelings (as touched on in your OP) with a doctor so they can see you have psychological reasons for asking

In the meantime carry on with the condoms and get yourself an implant (most reliable form of contraception). That way pregnancy would be incredibly unlikely.

Thank you, ItsAll.
I can't go back on the implant as I pretty much bled off and on for three years. The injection was ok though, so am happy to be going back on that.
I do take your point about it being a hard process to reverse, but there's no chance I will change my mind.
Maybe I need to sort my head out

They simply won't consider it with someone of your age with no children.

Maybe some counselling to deal with the issues you have around the termination would be a good idea.

Can you go private or is it too expensive?

I agree the counselling would help I think.

How about the copper coil no hormone and actually myself I haven't had any heavier peroids with it.

Sadly I'm not in a position to consider private.
Cheese I've had counselling in the past and found it very helpful. I am a thousand times more together than I was back then, and not sure I would get anything more out of going back. I don't have any issues surrounding the termination - it was absolutely the right thing to do and was relatively straightforward. I would do it again if I needed to. I just want to ensure I don't have to.

I know someone had it done at 30 as that was the youngest age it was done (NHS). She made a big fuss about never wanting children, she had show dogs and they were her life.

Couple of years later she met an amazing man at a dogshow.... and asked for it to be reversed. NHS said no, and she ended up paying privately for IVF.

I'm not saying that will happen with you, but the medical profession sees too many people who change their minds. My friend currently undergoing fertility treatment because her husband had the snip at 31 after 2 kids with his first wife who he left for my friend... (they had to pay privately for his reversal too as nhs won't fund that in our area - it didn't work).

I do appreciate the comments, everyone.

Hi Flibberty, I definitely see that people changing their minds could cause horrific heartbreak and difficulty. For me, I know I won't change my mind, but obviously everyone who wants to be sterilised says that.
Uggggh, just....ugh.

IME the NHS is very averse to sterilisation - especially in young childless women. That's not to say you can't have it done (a patient of mine had a tubal ligation at 30 with no kids) but be prepared for a fight.

The aversion is partly because so many women (and men) regret it later and ask for reversal, and partly because the long acting reversible contraceptives are cheaper, easier and safer than a surgical intervention.

If the implant didn't suit maybe consider a Mirena IUS, or depo, or save to have Essure done privately.

I'm 34 and planning to get sterilised privately. I haven't asked my GP, but I know they can be quite difficult about it and I'd just rather pay the money and get it done quickly. It's £1527 at Marie Stopes, which to me is worth it for the peace of mind and freedom from hormonal contraceptives. As a teacher with no children to support, I would have thought that's affordable, even if it takes some time to save for? I will need to save for mine for a year or two (have a lower income than a teacher) but it's an essential for me. Or their vasectomy is £402, so cheaper if your DP agrees to it?

In the meantime I use the implant as it's the most reliable form of contraception. I do bleed rather continuously on it but I use my mooncup and it's far better than the alternative of not being able to have sex or having to deal with an unwanted pg.