Please someone, hand me a grip. Fearing I may have conceived despite IUD

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I know the odds are hugely against it - I have a copper coil - but I'm flailing in case I'm pregnant. I feel irrational even typing this, but I have seen quite a few threads where people mention it's happened to them, and those are looming large in my mind and I am terrified. I will def be seeking a termination if the IUD has failed but I'd obviously far rather not be in that situation.

So: AF is 2 days late. My cycle is normally very regular or, if anything, a tiny bit shorter than the supposedly standard 28 days. I have had one tiny amount of spotting last night, but nothing whatsoever overnight or today. Certainly not the usual steady appearance of very light flow that usually starts my period before the heavy flow kicks in.

And I don't feel premenstrual in the normal way at all. And we did have sex around my ovulation days (by a guesswork sort of measurement), and in the past I have gotten pregnant very easily and quickly (although I am older now - 40 instead of 35).

BUT: I have done a test just now and it was negative. But now I've started the whole "Maybe I've tested too early, it could easily be a false neg" thing in my head. Tons of threads mention this as a thing that happens, too. I must stop obsessively reading old threads.

Come ON, period. Just come out, dammit. :(

It is possible BUT unlikely. Perhaps test over next few days or go to the Dr?
You must be so worried.
Sorry I can't be much help!x

Thanks so much for replying though - I felt kind of stupid posting at all. I got another tiny bit of spotting this afternoon and got the surge of relief, followed by return of worry later tonight when, again, there is nothing at all ... So yes, am going up the wall a bit!

I did ring the clinic that fitted the IUD and when I described the situation to the doctor (or nurse maybe) on the phone there, she agreed it was odd and that I should just keep waiting/checking/testing.

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It's really unlikely. I'm sure you'll come on in the next few days. Please try not to worry. I know that's easy to say but the odds are really strongly in your favour.

Thanks. Still waiting. Tiniest trace of blood on loo roll halfway through this morning, but has now stopped again.

You're right of course, the chances of a late period are far greater than of IUD failure. So anxious though. Just desperate for it to start properly. Lateness is so unusual for me that it feels impossible and bizarre to be 3 whole days late unless there's a concrete reason.

Will be sure to update if/when I do properly come on - if so then hopefully this will become a reassuring thread rather than one fuelling the anxiety of later searchers. I really hope it turns out that way.

Update for any future worried searchers: I DID get my period. Took forever, but it's properly happening now.

Even though there has been no contraceptive failure, the "scare" has left OH and I feeling illogically that we should be "more careful" (i.e. less trusting of the IUD), but I expect that background anxiety will wear off.

Good news OP.