Need a hand to hold please

[LucyBabs]

I am almost sure I am pregnant and it s a very unwanted pregnancy

I feel like the most horrible person, I had a termination earlier this year I just cannot believe I am in the same situation again.

I am so stupid I have two dc and my family is finished I don't want anymore so why have I found myself here AGAIN.

The main problem is if I am pregnant I will have to travel to the UK and pay for an abortion privately. I have no idea where I am going to find the money. The longer I leave it the worse it'll be.

I know I haven't even tested but I've been pregnant before so I know what it feels like

Recriminations are irrelevant. Try to focus on what you need to do.

First of all you need to test. I know sometimes you can tell but there's a chance you're wrong. Then think about booking. Can you borrow money or get some money from the father to cover costs?

www.mariestopes.org.uk/Womens_services/Abortion/Abortion_for_women_from_Ireland_and_other_countries/Travelling_from_Ireland.aspx

My dp borrowed money the last time there's a slight possibility he can borrow again

I'll test tonight.

Thanks for your reply havantguard

You might want to ask MNHQ to move this to "antenatal results and choices" as I think that's where you'll find more posters with the experience to support you (rather than here in "Contraception")

I wish you well in finding your way through this.

I'm sorry you have found yourself in this position again.

What I would recommend:

1. See if you can borrow some money. This may be difficult as often people want to know where their money is going, but if you have someone close you could tell or if they will ask no questions you could go over to the UK or somewhere similar and have it done and gradually pay back the money.
2. If this is the second time I'd think about maybe having a more permanent stop to the possibility of another of these happening. Sterilisation? The snip? Always wear a condom and use another form of contraception as well, to make it extra careful?
3. Dependant on how it affected you emotionally last time, I'd take some time off work for a few days after. As well as the emotional affect their is physical things that can happen even a few weeks after, especially the longer you leave it.

Wish you the best of luck and hope this doesn't happen again for you in the future.