Medical termination this week, so scared!!!

[TeaAndFag]

Recently found I'm pregnant after a 1 night stand (no judging please, I'm not proud of myself) I'm 26 and already a single to mum to a 3.5yr old DS and 17mth old DD. No way I could continue with this pregnancy and bring up 3 children under 4 alone. Had a bad experience with surgical abortion as a teenager, hence why I have opted for the tablets this time. Having read a lot of horror stories after googling (I know, I know, worst thing to do) I just wondered if any ladies on here who have had a medical abortion could possibly share their experiences? Was it a relatively quick process? In hindsight, would you have chosen the surgical method instead? I'm so scared of the pain but at the same time kind of feel like I deserve it for being so irresponsible I will be 5 weeks 3 days on Wednesday which is when the appointment is. Hoping that as its so early it shouldn't be too bad.....Anyone??

Sorry for finding yourself in this awful situation. I supported someone much younger than you through this a while back and it was relatively quick, although quite painful.
Make sure you have someone with you for some support and take some painkillers when they send you home.
It really was the only decision my friend could make and she has coped with it brilliantly.
I am sure the surgical route would be more traumatic for you.

I've had both. Surgical as a teen and medical earlier this year. You will be ok, it's not pleasant but not worse than a really bad period. I was 7 weeks by the time I got mine. I wouldn't recommend you try and look after the children during the worst of it though as you really need to rest up and be ready for a lot of loo visits. Hugs x

I had a medical termination at 6 weeks and few days IIRC and it wasn't painful at all. I've read the horror stories on the net beforehand as well and was quite scared but it was absolutely fine for me. Perhaps if usually you have painful periods it would be wise to take the painkillers you'll be given, though.
It also wasn't traumatic and what I felt was a huge relief.
Please don't beat yourself up about having a ONS, nothing wrong with it.
Hope it goes well.

Thankyou for your replies. I really hope it is over quickly Don't want my 2 children to be affected by it (seeing me in pain,upset) Luckily my ex has offered to help with the children while I'm at the clinic and afterwards. Part of me thinks I should have the surgical as it will all be done and dusted quicker but it doesn't help that I suffer with anxiety and as a result over think things majorly and always think the worst is going to happen (die whilst under GA etc) At least if I take the tablets I will have some sort of control over the situation. Just want it to be over with already

Thanks lubey, hoping I can share a positive
(as positive as it can be) experience once it's all done and dusted

Just wanted to say, you don't deserve pain at all. I hope it all goes as quickly and smoothly as possible. Given the choice I would go for medical if possible (my opinion is irrelevant really as haven't had either), as I would want to avoid GA. good luck x

Mine wasn't particularly painful, it was just a bad and heavy period. Take lots of ibuprofen or feminax (not aspirin!) and have a hot water bottle, and put plenty of towels in your bed so you feel comfortable to have a better night's sleep without worrying. I actually folded a tea towel and put it inside some shorts and that made me feel more comfortable.

The worst bit about it all for me was the massive dose of antibiotics they give you to take the next day, those made me feel pretty rough and mucked up my stomach for the better part of a week. So maybe get some probiotics and peppermint tea for that?

Good luck. It will be ok. I'm two months on and similarly have DC and just couldn't manage another pg and baby right now, and I feel ok. I will share what another MNetter said to me and which helped enormously: she said she felt upset about the situation more than about the termination. I know that is harsh but it was exactly how I felt when I stopped and thought about it. I wished the situation had never happened, and I wished I didn't have to make the decision and go through the termination. It was difficult for a while to separate all my emotions out and that realisation helped me enormously.

Thanks so much ladies, I really appreciate you taking the time to reply to me. Your responses have made me a bit teary, can't believe a group of strangers could be so lovely. JustALittleGreen, thankyou. I keep telling myself if I can give birth to a 10lber (DD) without any pain relief I'm sure I can manage this. I guess it's just the psychological side of things that makes it worse, knowing that I'm destroying a little life because of one night of drunken stupidity Just so angry with myself. Thurl, thankyou for your response, already stocked up on painkillers and maxi pads,definitely going to get a hot water bottle. I wish more than anything that this situation had never happened.

You're not a bad person for this happening. With all the best intentions people still fall pregnant by accident. It's a horrible situation to find yourself in but - and while I know not everyone will agree with me - at the moment the people who are more important are the children you already have. You have thought it through, and this is the right decision for your family. Being a parent is hard. This is the kind of situation none of us ever want to be in, but for me, making the decision to terminate was a decision as a parent and was the best thing of the DC I already had at that moment in time.

Huge sympathies, Tea. I am sure it will be fine.

FWIW, I had a surgical under local anaesthetic and it was uncomfortable but not painful. I've since has 3 children and the pain of the surgical procedure is nothing like childbirth! You will be fine either way. If you are worried about the medical procedure is this something you might consider. Pm me if I can give you more details.

My very best wishes to you