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Unwanted pregnancy

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mumfordanddaughters · 20/02/2013 15:53

No idea where the appropriate place to post this is. Just found out am pg with #4. DH away until saturday so haven't told him. Big shock. no desire for a 4th, really, have got rid of all the baby things as we were so sure we were done. I am about 98% sure I don't want this baby....obv would love it if we had it but I think you know how many you can cope with and 3 is nice for us. Will discuss with DH, of course, but I needed to tell somebody now and have somebody say there there it is ok and really ask for some advice if I do decide we don't want to have it, what do I do? Go and see my GP? Can anybody who has had a very early termination tell me what it was like?

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mumfordanddaughters · 20/02/2013 15:54

PS have namechanged for obvious reasons

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AmandaCooper · 20/02/2013 16:02

I'm afraid I don't know much about it but maybe try calling someone like the British Pregnancy Advisory Service 08457 30 40 30 or
Marie Stopes International 0845 300 8090 just to find out what your options are?

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AmandaCooper · 20/02/2013 16:03

Sorry your DH is away, that's bad timing. Do you have someone else in RL you could talk to?

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mumfordanddaughters · 20/02/2013 16:09

Thank you, that is kind. I don't feel I want to call anybody yet, need to tell DH. Am (needlessly before anybody leaps to conclusions!) worried he will be angry. With himself I assume, as much as me - he does know how these things happen!
I dont' know if I want to talk to anybody real (which is why I am on MN).

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WorkingtoohardMama · 20/02/2013 16:19

I was in the same situation as you, and we decided a termination was the best option, it was before 9 weeks, and I decided to take the tablets rather than have the op. it was fine, I did rest for a couple of days, but it wasn't too painful. Emotionally, I know it was the right decision for our family, if I had any regrets I'd look at the children we have, and know that we wouldn't have been able to stretch to accommodate another child and their lives would've been affected.

If you want to pm me for more info feel free and I hope you make the right decision for your family.