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Coil, implant or sterilisation?

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MrsJohnDeere · 24/11/2012 15:01

I've been googling the pros and cons of each and can't make up my mind. I'm leaning towards sterilisation but dh isn't 100% happy and my GP keeps pushing the coil. I need to reach a decision this week.

As background, I'm 40 years old, have recently had a miscarriage (unplanned pregnancy) and absolutely do not want to get pregnant again - in fact, have been strongly advised that I shouldn't get pregnant. Dh won't have the snip and I can't take the pill (full or mini). Periods irregular and virtually non-existant. I don't like hormonal things and I don't want to get fat!

Please help me decide!

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MrsJohnDeere · 24/11/2012 20:30

Bump

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FannyFifer · 24/11/2012 20:34

If you have been advised not to get pregnant and u can't take the pill, surely your partner should get a vasectomy, would he rather you risked another pregnancy. Why won't he?

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MrsJohnDeere · 24/11/2012 20:46

His view is that I might die in a car crash tomorrow and he might want to remarry and have more children.

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FannyFifer · 24/11/2012 20:47

Wow, he sounds nice.

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MrsJohnDeere · 24/11/2012 20:54

He is really, but he just doesn't want to take this step!

And no, I'm not going to leave the bastard. I can see his point of view.

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FannyFifer · 24/11/2012 21:10

Arf at leave the bastard. Wasn't going to advocate that one. :-)

DP getting the snip in a few weeks, happy Xmas to him.

His decision as I had two risky pregnancies and complications afterwards, stitches, infections blah blah, he decided it was only fair to take one for the team so to speak.

Why don't you go for Coil, think there is one with less hormones.

dandjmummy · 28/11/2012 17:22

i have the copper coil, yes it hurts, yes u bleed more, but as u i cant have the pill or any form of contraception, it is worth having done it would be far to risky if i had another baby so went down this route after a while it all settles down and you get used to having slightly heavier periods

dandjmummy · 28/11/2012 17:22

i have the copper coil, yes it hurts, yes u bleed more, but as u i cant have the pill or any form of contraception, it is worth having done it would be far to risky if i had another baby so went down this route after a while it all settles down and you get used to having slightly heavier periods

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MrsJohnDeere · 28/11/2012 19:22

Ah, the question is immaterial now. Because of a bit a gynae/poss cancer scare I've since been told condoms (or abstinence) only for at least 6 months.

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whizmum · 29/11/2012 16:45

If you can get OH to reconsider vasectomy route, it is 10x more effective than female sterilisation - I was amazed to hear that! Wish we had gone down that route now as it would have saved a lot of hassle.

Can he afford more children anyway? They seem to get more and more expensive as they grow-my 'adult' ones seem to take up all the money we have!

Best of luck with gynae probs, hope it goes well.

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TheFuzz · 03/12/2012 10:12

PS surgery on both men and women isn't without risks. It's much more invasive in a woman, hence I opted for the snip a few months ago. I won't be doing it again - I'm one of the 10-15% that it's gone wrong - i.e. left in considerable constant pain, and there is zero support in the UK when this happens.

I can appreciate DH's reluctance, I certainly opted for it for the reasons stated above, but given the pain I have now, I'm seriously thinking of having the lot removed - I'm also a keen cyclist and as you'd imagine, having painful parts isn't good. Medical experts keep it quite quiet about the 'risks' - 15% is quite high.

ArthurPewty · 03/12/2012 10:16

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BarbieDahl · 03/12/2012 10:21

Mirena coil for me. No periods, no side effects, suits me fine.

BabylonElf · 03/12/2012 22:42

I'm booked to be sterilised next week, but don't think I can go through with it :(

Northumberlandlass · 04/12/2012 13:29

BabylonElf - I am 40, have one DS (9) and absolutely did not want anymore children. I got sterilised in August - what doubts are you having ? Is it the procedure itself ?

PlateSpinningAtAllTimes · 04/12/2012 13:44

Firstly, sorry to hear about your health scare, OP. I wish you well and hope that you get the all clear.

This is an interesting thread. DH and I will have to make a similar decision after DC2 is born as I haven't got on with any of the hormonal types of contraception. Our choices have boiled down to coil or vasectomy (we've agreed that any sterilisation will be him not me due to risk of ectopic pregnancies, more invasive surgery etc). Bit scared about this 15% chance of vasectomy going wrong Confused

People on the mirena: does it have similar side effects to other hormonal methods? I found that the injection was great but couldn't stay on it any longer due to osteoperosis risk (was on it 6 years from age 16).

Sorry, OP, chuntering on about my own problems here. FWIW, my experience of the implant was exactly the same as the progesterone only pill. Exact same side effects, so if you try that for a bit it should give you an idea of what the implant would be like...?

Jenny70 · 27/12/2012 22:45

My DH is too chicken for the snip - so we opted for the implant.

Having it put in was OK, bit of bruising but not painful. Heavy bleed at next period which lasted 2.5 weeks (right PIA, thought I was going to be one of those bad cases where I have to have it taken out soon afterwards).

After initial bleed, nothing for 3 months now - been great, no side effects at all.

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